ThatsWhatHeSaid
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I've been curious about this for a while, as I've started to absorb the relationship between kindness to others, kindness for one's self, well-being, and calmness. I recently bought a book by Pema Chondron called Start Where You Are. The premise is that by accepting the pain and difficulty in your own life without pushing it away, and by sharing the things you already have (as opposed to pushing away your pain and clinging to your happiness) you can increase kindness and compassion. I think she's onto something.
What are your thoughts on kindness? on Pema's advice? Challenges associated with being kind? Benefits? Stories? Whatever?
One of the pitfalls I see is in being a fake and exhausting yourself. The balance between honesty, genuineness, and kindness has always interested me. I suppose it points to the fact that even in one's quest to be more kind, people have to be patient and kind to themselves.
Who's the kindest person you've ever met in real life?
For me it's probably this bass player I played with in college. Kinda-nerdy, but really soft spoken and you could tell he was really listening to you when you talked to him. Super-chill guy.
What can a person do to expand kindness?
What are your thoughts on kindness? on Pema's advice? Challenges associated with being kind? Benefits? Stories? Whatever?
One of the pitfalls I see is in being a fake and exhausting yourself. The balance between honesty, genuineness, and kindness has always interested me. I suppose it points to the fact that even in one's quest to be more kind, people have to be patient and kind to themselves.
Who's the kindest person you've ever met in real life?
For me it's probably this bass player I played with in college. Kinda-nerdy, but really soft spoken and you could tell he was really listening to you when you talked to him. Super-chill guy.
What can a person do to expand kindness?