Shadow
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It could theoretically work the other way around, right? Where the ENFP becomes more introverted?
If there's any way to do it, it's just by practicing. A lot. And getting older. As you get older people tend to balance out. But don't push yourself. If you become stressed, then you should probably stop.
The only way for an introvert to project extravertedness is practice, so I agree with Costrin, but I also agree that it takes effort. I've perfected my extravert technique after many years, but it still tires me out - that's not great when you have to keep it up constantly i.e. in a relationship.
My advice would be just to go with the flow. How long have you been going out? The closer you get to each other the more open you will be. ENFPs tend to be understanding individuals anyway, so don't be afraid to just talk about everything to her. I'm an introvert but even I believe good relationships are based on talking and trust. This is particularly necessary if you are feeling down, because if you don't talk to your girlfriend about it she'll jump to the conclusion that the problem must be something to do with her.
I'll third the suggestion that she might even become more introverted herself. Introverted as in a bit calmer and more pensive, although I highly recommend you open up more. As couples grow closer the differences in their personalities even out, so don't worry too much. Plus, she's with you so she obviously likes you as you are!
EDIT: Sorry if this seems a bit late...I missed a whole page of the thread out.