Lightyear
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I'm a 9 (974 INFJ) and have been looking more into type 8 since a work colleague (he's an 8w9 and some sort of xNTx but my guess is INTP) has surprisingly been opening up to me about his life and inner world. 8s are so different from me that I'm just trying to understand the mindset and how to not mess up when communicating.
In his professional life he comes across as incredibly calm and together (an 8w9 who has learned to control his emotions, ironically I as a 9 am impressed by his calmness) but has told me he actually doesn't like the vast part of humanity, has done martial arts to deal with his "dark side" and is also a lone ranger type, who highly values his independence. We are both pretty independent-minded but I'm definitely more idealistic and don't have the same hang ups about needing to be the one and only master of my fate.
How do I best communicate with him? Will he also at some point get fed up with my more idealistic side?
And is there something about me being a 9 that made him open up to me? Do we seem nonthreatening to an 8 and their desire to not be controlled?
In his professional life he comes across as incredibly calm and together (an 8w9 who has learned to control his emotions, ironically I as a 9 am impressed by his calmness) but has told me he actually doesn't like the vast part of humanity, has done martial arts to deal with his "dark side" and is also a lone ranger type, who highly values his independence. We are both pretty independent-minded but I'm definitely more idealistic and don't have the same hang ups about needing to be the one and only master of my fate.
How do I best communicate with him? Will he also at some point get fed up with my more idealistic side?
And is there something about me being a 9 that made him open up to me? Do we seem nonthreatening to an 8 and their desire to not be controlled?