Ribonuke
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I have one or two friends that, while we seem to agree on many things and respect each other, both of my friends seem intent on trying to 'pry me out of my shell'.
I am an INFJ, so often times when they're warm and peppy and trying to get me to do something with them (I know for a fact that they're introverts, but they seemed to admire my 'genuine' nature and so they began trusting me enough to open all the way up, expecting me to do the same).
Both my friends and I are very sensitive dreamers; we often like talking about various things and having interesting discussions. However, they seem to want to 'hang out' with me every chance they can get, and this is emotionally draining for me because we usually have some pretty deep discussions that often lead me wanting to withdraw and process the information for a while. They seem to have their feelings hurt whenever I don't want to do what they want every single second we talk to eachother, or when I have to cut my visits short because I get really tired.
Do these people sound like they could be INFPs to you? If so, what do you recommend I do to help them understand how I feel without hurting their feelings? It's like...they feel like either I've failed them or that they've failed me, and all these absolutist give-and-take aspects of our friendships weigh FAR too much on my emotional sanity to bear much longer.
What do you reccommend? (I want to keep them as friends, because I appreciate them and enjoy their companionship; but I wish they could just...argrhh, leave me alone sometimes)
(DISCLAIMER: I am not passing any judgment on INFPs here; these are only two individuals I'm talking about.)
I am an INFJ, so often times when they're warm and peppy and trying to get me to do something with them (I know for a fact that they're introverts, but they seemed to admire my 'genuine' nature and so they began trusting me enough to open all the way up, expecting me to do the same).
Both my friends and I are very sensitive dreamers; we often like talking about various things and having interesting discussions. However, they seem to want to 'hang out' with me every chance they can get, and this is emotionally draining for me because we usually have some pretty deep discussions that often lead me wanting to withdraw and process the information for a while. They seem to have their feelings hurt whenever I don't want to do what they want every single second we talk to eachother, or when I have to cut my visits short because I get really tired.
Do these people sound like they could be INFPs to you? If so, what do you recommend I do to help them understand how I feel without hurting their feelings? It's like...they feel like either I've failed them or that they've failed me, and all these absolutist give-and-take aspects of our friendships weigh FAR too much on my emotional sanity to bear much longer.
What do you reccommend? (I want to keep them as friends, because I appreciate them and enjoy their companionship; but I wish they could just...argrhh, leave me alone sometimes)
(DISCLAIMER: I am not passing any judgment on INFPs here; these are only two individuals I'm talking about.)