not all ENFJs are immature ENFJs. You are not an immature ENFJ, so ignore the negatives that are only negatives of the immature ones.
I agree with UseHerName, the examples of 2 (possible/probable) ENFJ exes does not for a holistic view of type. I actually had no idea my ex was an ENFJ, but suddenly it's all coming together. LOL.
Seriously though, as you can see from the description, my ex and Whatever's ex -- they were kinda 'special people' (No offense to Whatever)
But seriously, a grown man crying over someone commenting on their steak and whining to get their gf to come over like that. COME ON. The hilarious thing is, I could SO EASILY see my ex doing the same thing about whining and getting me to come over and taking comments directed at other things personally.
My ex would also take snacks and other food items from her old roommate's house "as a joke" when she was over. She would stash them in her bag and take them with her. When said roommate asked where his food went, I told him honestly that my ex took it. And then my ex got all righteously angry and pouty that I had 'told' on her because "nobody is supposed to know"! HAHAHAHAHAH. OMG.
All I can say in my defense is that I was young...very young...and I don't mean just in physical age.
And yeah seriously, I really do NOT think these are descriptions of 'normal' ENFJs...I really hope not...
Whatever, what do you think?
As for my exe's good points, when she wasn't being smothering, she was very affectionate and caring and would cook a lot to take care of me. When she wasn't completely paralyzed with anger and her inability to express herself, she was pretty expressive of her emotions (namely the happy and loving ones). She had a REAL hard time expressing anger in a constructive way. My best advice to her was always "calm down and breathe".
I know...that sounds like a backhanded compliment. But again, I am NOT speaking for all ENFJs or think she was a 'normal' representative of a healthy ENFJ.