Orientation
I agree in general. But, we also have to learn to let go when it is time to let go. Many people scourge themselves bloody with the memory of the past. A memory that is clouded with masochism and regret. Memory is not reliable. We are predisposed to feel loss, even over things we should be glad to let go of. It is the same quirk in the human mind that makes it hard for people to throw out old clothing.
Forgive me but there are two bits of baggage I want to throw out.
I want to throw out agreement or disagreement. And I want to throw out definitions.
For I don't care whether you agree or disagree with me. I presume you will do one or the other or somewhere in between. But it is irrelevant. It is existentially irrelevant.
Whether you agree or disagree doesn't change what I have said. So your only appropriate response is to say something of your own. In other words you can only add to the bonfire, you can't take anything away. What has been writ stays writ and the writing finger moves on.
I also want to throw out definitions because they are redundant, reductive and defensive. Definitions presuppose a teleology - a beginning, a middle and an end. But here we are engaged in the never-ending-conversation, free of any teleology at all.
So instead of asking for a definition, we would do better to ask for the relationship, the recurse or the gestalt.
I realise that throwing out the baggage of agreement or disagreement and the baggage of definitions leaves us disorientated. But it also leaves us free to orientate ourselves to the never-ending-conversation.