mochajava
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I think at some point you have to be in an environment where it is okay to make mistakes. That environment is not school, where you risk the disapproval/ridicule of classmates (might feel worse to an NF than other types?). Or academics, where any mistake is a few points off. Well, that depends on how much your family will lacerate you for those types of mistakes...
What I'm trying to say is that I think many people had an environment where it was OKAY to make mistakes, whether that was Capoiera or a supportive family. Some of us never had that environment in which to exist (I fall into this camp) and maybe that's why it's so hard to make mistakes. I also don't think it will get 'easier' for me to stop excoriating myself for all my mistakes until I take a serious look at this issue... and maybe how my background contributes to it.
Until then, I'll continue to be fairly paranoid and try to be meticulous, no matter how much it goes against my nature. Not to leave this on an unhealthy note -- you are asking a really good question.
What I'm trying to say is that I think many people had an environment where it was OKAY to make mistakes, whether that was Capoiera or a supportive family. Some of us never had that environment in which to exist (I fall into this camp) and maybe that's why it's so hard to make mistakes. I also don't think it will get 'easier' for me to stop excoriating myself for all my mistakes until I take a serious look at this issue... and maybe how my background contributes to it.
Until then, I'll continue to be fairly paranoid and try to be meticulous, no matter how much it goes against my nature. Not to leave this on an unhealthy note -- you are asking a really good question.