It's like that scene in Jerry macquire , where he reaches for his phone to fine someone to share the good news with and he realizes there is only one person he wanted to share that moment with.
Or when you expose yourself showing all the uncomfortable bits and the person still looks at you with love and doesn't turn away or visa versa .
If we weren't constantly bombarded with love songs, would we fall in love?
Marriage is a contract, and romantic love began with the medieval troubadours who romanced married women, but didn't sleep with them.
Falling in love today is consuming love in our consumer culture. And the proof of this is that falling in love doesn't last. It is another consumer item.
Today falling in love entrances us, our critical mind goes to sleep, and we can believe almost anything.
Of course it touches our needs as children, such as our need for love, for unconditional love. We are touched at our deepest need so that we will buy, almost anything.
I'm sorry but I disagree. I don't listen to love songs, and I love my wife greatly. I think your definition of romantic love is different from mine. I feel that true romantic love is a feeling that two people share without the external world qualifying it, or quantifying it. I differ with your point that love does not last. I have been married for fourteen years now and I love her more than ever. The depth of her character and the insightfulness of her mind amaze me all the time. If it is finite, it is because the human condition is finite. It is no consumer item, for it cannot be bought or sold. Anyone who says otherwise has never experienced it and has my sympathy on the matter. You arWe entitled to your opinion, and I know you are an intelligent and thoughtful person. But I cannot agree with you on this subject.
I am pleased you disagree as most Western people would agree with you. However falling in love led Romeo and Juliette to their deaths, yet we have whole industries devoted to falling in iove. And Juliette was only 14 years old, and a victim of statutory rape, and under the legal control of her parents. And some cultures dispense with love and have arranged marriages. And depth analysis of falling love leads us back to childhood and our parents.
Why is it that the psychoanalysis of falling in love is so uniformly resisted in the West? What don't we want to know?
I am pleased you disagree as most Western people would agree with you. However falling in love led Romeo and Juliette to their deaths, yet we have whole industries devoted to falling in iove. And Juliette was only 14 years old, and a victim of statutory rape, and under the legal control of her parents. And some cultures dispense with love and have arranged marriages. And depth analysis of falling love leads us back to childhood and our parents.
Why is it that the psychoanalysis of falling in love is so uniformly resisted in the West? What don't we want to know?
Simple question...how do you know when you have fallen in love with someone? Not lust or infatuation, but all the way, genuine love? What is/was that like for you? How were you around the object of your affection?
Though this is still rather applicable across the board, I thought this was interesting.
While I personally reject the concept of a soul or soulmate- the phrasing aside- I found the INFJ description very relatable, in terms of what is the most vital internal indicator that I've found a good partner. Ignoring all the usual stuff in these articles that blow smoke up INFJ’s asses about how special (etc) they are, of course. The feeling described is accurate, for me.
Others may connect with theirs. I think most of the values described could be said for anyone regardless of type. I guess it’s just a matter of which might stand out to you the most.
The Myers Briggs Guide to Knowing You’ve Found Your Soulmate | Observer
Just as astrology is plausible, so mbti is plausible. But both fail the tests of evidence and reason and common morality.