LedZipline
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- Jul 3, 2015
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- MBTI Type
- ESTP
Hey. First time poster here so go easy!
My question is about the interaction between infps and estps.
I've had a friend who is INFP since pre school age and he is great as a friend but now that we're expanding in seemingly opposite directions spending long periods of time with his friends is DRAINING AS HELL for me and it applies to him for my friends as well. It's really cool at another level though as it's an almost perfect example of my polR function :/
Going to a con with him as he's dressed as a character from some anime seemed like it'd be really fun at first. But all that happened was we "talked" to people all day about in-depth anime stories. Which I'm not too acquainted with .
I typed talking in quotes because it was not a chat, it was us listening to them basically self express stuff about their most loved fandom or try to explain to me how they felt about a show, and how their fanfic was so much better. It was so one sided :/ , I tried bringing other stuff up but was interrupted by the next conversation about more anime . My god I haven't felt so drained of energy in my life.
I tried having some fun but my humour kind of slid off them. And apparently trying to mug a coffee stand with a foam sword isn't allowed because I was "actually scaring the barrista a bit". Seriously guys, it was a joke.
The same situation in his eyes might be the day my friends and I brought him out in my friends car and drove to so many places, gathering more people as we went until it was so cramped in the car we had to smoke out the sunroof. 2 at a time! XD.
Hit a party at about 10, had a blast talking to some serious girls and left about 9 the next morning because all he wanted to do was go home sleep!
Anyway, enough stories and examples. My question is what have been your experiences with Infp's and Estp's, either seeing them together or being one type and spending time with the other?
Has anyone found a good middle ground or compromise so that we can get along for more than 3 hours at a time? Activities and they like?
Or maybe a catalyst type to ease the difference between us?
I'm just lost here and would appreciate advice
My question is about the interaction between infps and estps.
I've had a friend who is INFP since pre school age and he is great as a friend but now that we're expanding in seemingly opposite directions spending long periods of time with his friends is DRAINING AS HELL for me and it applies to him for my friends as well. It's really cool at another level though as it's an almost perfect example of my polR function :/
Going to a con with him as he's dressed as a character from some anime seemed like it'd be really fun at first. But all that happened was we "talked" to people all day about in-depth anime stories. Which I'm not too acquainted with .
I typed talking in quotes because it was not a chat, it was us listening to them basically self express stuff about their most loved fandom or try to explain to me how they felt about a show, and how their fanfic was so much better. It was so one sided :/ , I tried bringing other stuff up but was interrupted by the next conversation about more anime . My god I haven't felt so drained of energy in my life.
I tried having some fun but my humour kind of slid off them. And apparently trying to mug a coffee stand with a foam sword isn't allowed because I was "actually scaring the barrista a bit". Seriously guys, it was a joke.
The same situation in his eyes might be the day my friends and I brought him out in my friends car and drove to so many places, gathering more people as we went until it was so cramped in the car we had to smoke out the sunroof. 2 at a time! XD.
Hit a party at about 10, had a blast talking to some serious girls and left about 9 the next morning because all he wanted to do was go home sleep!
Anyway, enough stories and examples. My question is what have been your experiences with Infp's and Estp's, either seeing them together or being one type and spending time with the other?
Has anyone found a good middle ground or compromise so that we can get along for more than 3 hours at a time? Activities and they like?
Or maybe a catalyst type to ease the difference between us?
I'm just lost here and would appreciate advice