Do you find them attractive?
Depends on the INTJ.
If yes, what makes them attractive?
Mental sparring - no holds barred.
Last serious relationship was with an INTJ male.
What should an INTJ man do to get you or make you get him?
- Don't be a pussy when it comes to owning up to your vulnerabilities, such that you are likely to play little mind-games to guage where I am at, to "test the waters". Shrouding it in "dry jokes" or "pretending you don't really care" for the answer will make me smell out your fakeness/weakness and that only invites my immature side to play. Ask me, point blank, whatever it is that makes you feel embarrassed or weird. Just ask. [mind-games with me never leads to any kind of progress, as it inevitably dissolves into one-upmanship and me trying to outplay the other]
- Do not get annoyed if you hear a lot of "I don't know" when you ask questions about my long-term plans, visions, future. I honestly DO NOT KNOW - it's not that I'm flighty or not "serious with life [you]"....I just operate and look at life in a very different way. Accept that.
- Stop being a blabber-mouth or tuning me out. Seriously. Listen to my weird theories, give patience to it, even it it may seem "all over the place": I'm explaining it, wait until the
end, and THEN question its relevance or whether it makes sense. Afterall, I listen to your boring, DETAILED weird stories as well, so don't tune me out just because I'm not speaking in YOUR language [maybe it was that particular individual].
- Appreciate chaos.
- Black/White - see colours, embrace haziness.
- Do not patronize me or nag me or tell me the "most efficient way" to do something. For example, how to effectively use the knife to cut a piece of cheese. I will ask you if I'm looking for short-cuts and optimal ways of doing something [I'm not shy] - there's probably a very good reason why I'm choosing this "not so optimal" route....like, say, killing all the time to "help" in the kitchen by cutting the cheese in a time-consuming manner, so that I avoid other more detestable tasks.
* My motto in life is: E-F-F-O-R-T.....I am acutely aware of the effort I exert on any given task, and why I do what I do. As such, I will be the first to ask for bounce-off of ideas on how to minimize effort, if I feel so inclined.