Having an ENFP friend is like having a dog.
You know when you have a dog--or an ENFP friend--you will always have someone who is pleased to see you. The fact he/she/it will be pleased to see ANYONE is beside the point.
it's because we're all on a boat with T-Pain.
i love OTHER enfps . . . like a lot . . . like L-O-V-E. i am just super hyper critical of myself / "self loathing" . . . but the self loathingness is deep deep deep deep down but yet always accessible . . . but anyways . . . i am so mesmerized / intrigued by introversion ( cuz i want some of that for myself) that it makes me dislike MY extroversion . . . if that makes any sense . . . and actually i think i may be a little bit of a "wannabe" infp . . . so that is very perceptive of you . . .
i find it so unbelievably awesome & crazy that you ask this . . . i feel that we (enfps) are SUCH OPEN BOOKS . . . like we spew & vomit all our feelings / insight / opinions / feelings / perceptions out constantly to the point where there is NOTHING hidden (or therefore mysterious) about us . . . i luv luv luv that you ask this did i mention that i luv it? that is really cool. you made my day. thank you
As friends or in casual dating, yes, the book is open. But once it gets serious and real issues and real feelings need to be discussed out loud (not just felt inside), I have found that the book is closed.
I'm not hating. I absolutely love ENFP's. But, the book is open, open, open - and then as soon as it gets to a serious subject or serious point of the relationship, it seems to close and become very difficult to open.
It's like, "let's talk about fun and crazy stuff and be open and lovey dovey", but when the INTP responds with something like, "OK, so you want to get things out on the table, do you? Since we're being open, how about we discuss this topic? And the ENFP goes:
about disliking your extroversion, like maybe you wish you could be more self-contained because you feel like you need other people?
I have never experienced us as being annoying and I've never heard anybody else characterize us this way.
As friends or in casual dating, yes, the book is open. But once it gets serious and real issues and real feelings need to be discussed out loud (not just felt inside), I have found that the book is closed.
I'm not hating. I absolutely love ENFP's. But, the book is open, open, open - and then as soon as it gets to a serious subject or serious point of the relationship, it seems to close and become very difficult to open.
It's like, "let's talk about fun and crazy stuff and be open and lovey dovey", but when the INTP responds with something like, "OK, so you want to get things out on the table, do you? Since we're being open, how about we discuss this topic? And the ENFP goes:
Oh God this yeah
For me, it's not even just about needing other people, but needing external circumstances. Social groups to belong to. Stuff going on at work. Interesting projects and hobbies. And so on. I'm sure that many of you can relate.
Really? Because this very perception came up in Vent between a few of us a while back.
I don't speak for anyone else here.. but extroverted perceivers can be scatterbrained and flaky, and feelers can be pretty indirect. There's a lot of room for one to be annoying.
Oh trust me I know I've annoyed other people (mainly for all the reasons you've listed above ), but I wouldn't say that we are characteristically annoying. Most of us do all those annoying things, the less mature and ENFP is the more often they do those things, but most people on the forum don't seem to think those things outweigh the good ENFP qualities in most ENFP's- well, not to the extent that most people would call us annoying at least. Lol- have I repeated myself enough?
Oh God this yeah
For me, it's not even just about needing other people, but needing external circumstances. Social groups to belong to. Stuff going on at work. Interesting projects and hobbies. And so on. I'm sure that many of you can relate.
Really? Because this very perception came up in Vent between a few of us a while back.
I don't speak for anyone else here.. but extroverted perceivers can be scatterbrained and flaky, and feelers can be pretty indirect. There's a lot of room for one to be annoying.
We're annoying. It's okay. All types have flaws.
We're annoying. It's okay.
freedom can be annoying to others which is what ENFP's are all about. To some though, it can be refreshing.
^^ :stunned: Wow, that is a *lot* coming from Nomadic. Kekekeke.
But you know on a more serious note I think a lot of it has to do with the mental/intellectual connection.
Also, there is a lot of diversity within the ENFP type or INTP type sooooo
because you cant understand us.
Really you cant. Fi is so totally, utterly nonunderstandable for an INTP. So we just make you giggle. ENFPs are like that cow that is letting people eat it in that Douglas Adams book.
Preach it like it is!!!!Yeah we kind of lack boundaries, heh. I've been criticized for it, but I love other open people too. .
Ni doms are 20x more incomprehensible.