animenagai
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Wow I just read the entire thread and it has proven to be very enlightening! I have just become acutely interested in you ENFPs after falling under the spell of one recently.
So I get it, it is common for people to become quickly infatuated with ENFPs, sometimes when the romantic interest is not necessarily returned. So my question is: Have any of you ENFPs become infatuated with another only to realize that it would not work out? And if so, would the ENFP immediately break off the "relationship" upon realizing this, or let it go on in fear of hurting the other person, or withdraw in hopes that the other person will slowly disengage from the relationship?
Put it this way, this is the story of my life: I fall head over heels for someone, or at least the idea of someone, what I think someone is and fall completely flat. I just don't know how to handle this, I'm too indulged in my fantasies for my own good. All the while, someone I see just as a friend may fall for me and because I'm a) so infatuated with my own target and b) never even opened myself to the possibility of a romantic relationship with the other person, that I end up with nothing. It is a very sad state of affairs, so I actually find it surprising when people say they find ENFP's (at least those like myself) attractive. I know I'm a guy and it doesn't really fit into the social norm for me to say this, but I kinda hope any girl that finds me attractive can just smack me over the head and make things blunt. I actually find that kinda cute, and it's what I need.
ps. One of the girls I fell for was an ISTJ. Let's just say my idea of her wasn't anywhere close to being accurate.