This is why I can troubleshoot so well at work. I can also see a massive 30,000 foot view of problems. My ENTP says her ENFP VP is very similar. We both can "see" stuff other people cant then get kinda snippy as we will have a gut intuition and understand the problem, but Ti cannot move forward without identifying detailed issues-thus we frustrate the engineers and ourselves. We have an air of "expediency" about our actions. Which gives the NTPs anxiety attacks.
Oh, don't worry about that air of expediency: that's just your inner xNTJ, who has already figured out your problem for you, and is ready to execute. It helps to focus on Te at that point, because it's Te that is good at presenting facts and details and showing how they all fit together into a coherent whole, cf. my video in another thread.
I thought it was NeTe but there is something funny going on with Fi as well. I think Fi is meant to mirror complex emo in others, then use that mirrored emo to help form rule sets-values over time. I cant use Fi on individual people-but I will feel distinct emotive responses as I look at patterns or think through complex troubleshooting. It's almost like I feel the problem with an aura of sorts that extends out of my chest. Fi seems very kinesthetic to me-it wants to "touch" what I am currently trying to understand. I need to "feel" the problem.
I think there is both N and Fi things going on here. I fully understand needing to "feel" the problem. That "feeling" is what tells me whether or not I've figured it out. I think it's much more N than Fi, though. N is the perceiving function that is doing the "feeling": but it's N-feeling, not Fi-feeling.
I should know: my Fi, especially recently, is a very different beast. I've been able to "feel" problems since forever. Fi feels people. It understands myself, then through that understanding begins to understand others. I've only recently begun to be able to feel people.
I spent today looking at people's eyes as I walked around the city. It evokes immediate emotive responses so i have to break eye contact within seconds. Looking at them without Te-it is like physically touching them.
I understand this Fi-feeling of other people. It isn't in the eye contact, though. It's more like I get this feeling of who they are, what they're about. I don't read their mind or their emotions, but their essence. I can find that essence and then, what I try to do, is "touch" it in a caring, attentive way. With the dancing, it is easy to do: dance for a while, use a few simple rules to keep the conversation low-key and tame. Then, on a gut-instinct level, I just guess what I need to say that will reach out from within me and touch their essence, warming it. The whole time, of course, I keep Te turned off, except for special friends. Te says things that are harsh, no matter how helpful. I focus on warm, not harsh. Dancing is supposed to be fun, for entertainment. For me, it's also a skill I try to perfect, and my Te goes into overdrive figuring out what is happening correctly/incorrectly, but if I say what Te is doing out loud, that's a recipe for trouble.
At my best, however, I use it all together. For example, the most common mistake a new follower will make is to take large steps. When moving fast, to take large steps is the correct course of action to move efficiently for most tasks, but dancing is very different. Dancers dance quickly by taking small steps, staying close to one's partner. So, I'll say, "Smaller steps. Take smaller steps. That's why it feels so funny right now. Smaller steps will make it feel right," while trying to evoke as much warmth as I can. It's like touching them with my feelings. Since taking the advice usually works, I say afterward, "See? It feels better, now, right?"
The whole time, the picture in my head is one of gently holding the other's essence, gently nudging in a certain "direction" to learn something new. Curiously, this is also how leading in dancing works. One moves oneself, and through moving one's own body, leads one's partner smoothly and cleanly: very much an Fi metaphor. Te, on the other hand, is like trying to lead with one's hands: for most purposes, moving your hands and arms is the best way to manipulate things in the world around you, but in dancing, it's bad, because it's usually very jerky and harsh. Hands move much faster than most people can move their bodies. The fastest runner runs maybe 30 mph, but the fastest pitcher can throw a ball 100+ mph. By leading with one's body, one's whole self, one makes sure that one's partner can keep pace.