sunshinEnfp
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- ENFP
So... I am currently dating a male ENFJ and I am an ENFP... (but I was very close to getting INFP). Anyway, everything's going REALLY well... we've been seeing each other for a few weeks and... it's really, really great.
But I guess I had a question of some of the ENFPs (and maybe INFPs, too) out there... do you self-sabotage your relationship if it's going too well?
I guess I'm asking this because (1) I'm curious and (2) I think part of me is starting to get super uncomfortable in a way because I'm not in control, because the thing between us is really good, but... I guess it's hard for me to be vulnerable; I have a few close friends and I let them in and they know me well, but it's taken a long time for them to know me as more than just the "happy-go-lucky ENFP" that everyone else sees. With this guy, right from the start, I have been so comfortable and have shared a lot and we just seem to get each other. But part of me also is ready to just shut off my feelings and just... self-sabotage in a way because I think I am afraid of getting hurt (even though there's been nothing to indicate that I will).
This is more of a curiosity thing than anything else and it's probably not limited to being an ENFP/INFP or anything. But... I was just wondering your thoughts!
But I guess I had a question of some of the ENFPs (and maybe INFPs, too) out there... do you self-sabotage your relationship if it's going too well?
I guess I'm asking this because (1) I'm curious and (2) I think part of me is starting to get super uncomfortable in a way because I'm not in control, because the thing between us is really good, but... I guess it's hard for me to be vulnerable; I have a few close friends and I let them in and they know me well, but it's taken a long time for them to know me as more than just the "happy-go-lucky ENFP" that everyone else sees. With this guy, right from the start, I have been so comfortable and have shared a lot and we just seem to get each other. But part of me also is ready to just shut off my feelings and just... self-sabotage in a way because I think I am afraid of getting hurt (even though there's been nothing to indicate that I will).
This is more of a curiosity thing than anything else and it's probably not limited to being an ENFP/INFP or anything. But... I was just wondering your thoughts!