Eh. That's very dangerous. They could be all kinds of charming and try really hard (they know how) and be a real sweetie but then, it is a hundred times harder to let go and think clearly and make the right choice for her. In the end ... is he sincere? Can she believe him? Does it make it forgivable? Will she be less hurt? Would his apology make up for what he did?
The point is that sometimes good people fuck up. And sometimes they do whatever is necessary to make things right. It's not a matter of an apology making up for what he did, that's just the start of it. Believe me, there is a steep hill to climb, especially in winning back the trust of a female INFJ. I know this first hand, because unfortunately after 8 years of a rocky marriage, I made that mistake. I came clean, and did what was needed to reconcile, and that is not a quick process.
But, if a guy is willing to do that, and stay the course, that is your indicator of whether or not he is sincere and honest about reconciliation. Are there sociopath fuck ups out there? Yes. Should they be shot? Yes. Does this guy sound like a douchebag? Absolutely. But does that mean every guy who has fucked up by being unfaithful is incapable of reconciling and making things right? Hell no.
It takes two to make things go right, and also two to make things go badly. Sometimes people are unfaithful because there is a void in their lives that is not being filled in their relationships. It's the wrong way to handle it, but it happens.
Women fuck off too, you know. My ex did that to me after me being a perfect boyfriend for 4 years. Did I give her another chance? Yup. Did she fuck up again? Yup. Did I ever speak to her again after that. NOPE.
These situations are not always as black and white as many would like to believe. The dynamics between two people in a romantic relationship are vast and unpredictable. Shit happens. Why it happened, and how it gets handled are the determining factors on whether or not things should continue.
The BF in the OP is just sitting on his ass doing nothing. He needs to get shit canned.
Haha, slipped on a banana.
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Hmmmm, if he acted this way then I would say that previous examinations of his actions have a good chance of being false, or are used very superficially. I.e. he is prince charming, sweet, considerate etc. only because he has motives to be this way. The motives? Trying to keep you from discovering his actions. That's how I see it.
You are not a psychic who can see the thoughts, inclinations, and motivations of people in the past and present. But, you are entitled to an opinion. If everyone took this attitude toward people attempting to atone for their wrongdoings, then there would be no forgiveness, and the world would be an awfully horrible place. Think about that.