"A mature adult is one who controls their emotions. If I don't control my feelings, I may do something I'll regret."
I've noticed my FJ friend restrains negative emotions, where as the FP would just express it.
How much does this statement apply to NFs here? Do you think it's true or a useful belief?
I cannot hide my emotions when I'm having one feeling "on" no matter if the feeling is negative or positive. If I want to avoid feeling something, I wont think about it. If I feel bad about something, I simply avoid thinking of it and then I'll avoid the feeling too. This works only with minor stuff. With big things, like somebody close dying, I will simply deal with the pain, the loss and the sadness. Because I'll have to deal with it to get over it, someday and somehow.
So, I figured out that I can control somewhat my emotional responses by the means of thinking or not thinking. In real life situations, in action, it's much harder because I "act"/feel/intuit before thinking. So in real life situations my only choice is physically go somewhere else to minimize the effect of the feeling. Most of the time I'm talking about negative emotions that I want to shake. With positive emotions, I don't have a need to escape.
I really try to avoid negative stuff for some reason. I don't know if it's something in me, my ENFP'ness or in the family surroundings when I grew up.
I have always had too strong emotions all my life. I have found out I really need to put down many emotions because feeling all of them all of the time is basically too painful.
Real and deep sadness is the most private feeling I have and when I'm sad I don't want to see anybody and I don't want anybody to see me. I want to feel sad by myself because that way I can handle it the best way possible, in those cases I cannot deal with other people's emotions at the same time.