andresimon
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- Apr 11, 2015
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- MBTI Type
- ENFP
Is it possible for ENFPs and ENFJs to have a long term, healthy, and happy relationship? After all, they have nary a cognitive function in common.
While all four NF types have a special kinship, this kinship doesn't seem universally strong. For example, just like there is a uniquely powerful magnetism between ENFPs and INFJs, there is an equally powerful repulsion between ENFPs and ENFJs.
- ENFP = Ne > Fi > Te > Si
- ENFJ = Fe > Ni > Se > Ti
Thus, is the theory. And, so it is also my personal experience.
I think of the ENFJs I know. I have soooo much in common with them. We like the same things. We both have a flair for conversation and for the arts. We both are socially capable and able to work our contacts. We both tend to get along with INFJs and INFPs quite well.
And yet, even given all we have in common, it seems we live on different planets. Fi versus Fe? Whatever the reason, I'm not the only one who has noticed this natural antipathy between these two types.
I want to know if anyone on the forum has figured out how to make such ENFP/ENFJ relationships work. Either as friends or lovers… Any advice is appreciated. I would very much like to improve my ability to interact with ENFJs.
ENFJ's are action oriented first and observation oriented last while ENFP's are observation oriented first and action oriented last. That being the case the social norms do push ENFP's and ENFJ's to look similar in a lot of ways. Although I have many ENFJ relationships I find that they often end up in conflict.