AddictedOne
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- Mar 8, 2018
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- ESFJ
Hey,
Three months ago my INTP gf (20yo) broke up with me (21yo).. when she broke up, she told me it was not planned and she hurt me really a lot. She even said: if you dont want to, well we can maybe still try.. but I told her she had to go for me 100%, so she broke up. We had been in a relationship for almost 3 years.
Reasons:
We were different
I deserve someone better
I made mistakes by sometimes being selfish
I did complain a lot about the small imperfections of her/us
Pushing her to do things, made her pull away from me
It was her first relationship and did not know if it all felt right (“not like in the moviesâ€)
...
First week of breakup, she wanted me back. After not talking for about 3 weeks, I decided to get things back together, she had realised she felt ok like this, without me, maybe there was a 25% chance we would come back together. I went through a really hard time, skipping uni, crying a lot, staying in bed, thinking about quitting life, missing and loving her more than ever..
Every Friday we went sporting (boxing) together, so we decided to keep doing that together. I mostly talked about feelings and about us, which she could imagine I liked to, but she disliked it, she just wanted to be friends. After boxing I brought her home and sometimes I went in for a drink and went home at night (after watching a movie or something). Sometimes I texted her, sometimes she snapchatted me.
3 months later, I really miss her. I really do love her, but I do not know if this is killing me. When I text her nowadays, she mostly replies with ‘yep’ and ‘nope’. Most of my Snapchats stay unreplied.. she does not send anthing to me. On the contrary, she did not remove our picture kissing eachother on FB, replies on this Scrabble app immediately when I play a word, wants to keep boxing, still wants to go to a movie with me, went ice skating with me at my bday because she’d really liked to, and she said she was checking my social media.
Some things to know:
Ive already gotten professional help
She almost never initialized something, it was always me
She almost never visited my house, I always went to hers
She hardly goes anywhere, but likes to stay in the house
Her parents really like me and liked that I was taking her places
Ive been her first love, first kiss and only guy she ever loved (according to her)
I went to a Harry Styles concert with her once, because she had no one to go with (I really liked it)
I really want to understand her and are on mbti forums a lot
What do you people think? Is this worth waiting/hoping/working for? What steps do I have to make and what will be best for her and for me?
Thanks!
Three months ago my INTP gf (20yo) broke up with me (21yo).. when she broke up, she told me it was not planned and she hurt me really a lot. She even said: if you dont want to, well we can maybe still try.. but I told her she had to go for me 100%, so she broke up. We had been in a relationship for almost 3 years.
Reasons:
We were different
I deserve someone better
I made mistakes by sometimes being selfish
I did complain a lot about the small imperfections of her/us
Pushing her to do things, made her pull away from me
It was her first relationship and did not know if it all felt right (“not like in the moviesâ€)
...
First week of breakup, she wanted me back. After not talking for about 3 weeks, I decided to get things back together, she had realised she felt ok like this, without me, maybe there was a 25% chance we would come back together. I went through a really hard time, skipping uni, crying a lot, staying in bed, thinking about quitting life, missing and loving her more than ever..
Every Friday we went sporting (boxing) together, so we decided to keep doing that together. I mostly talked about feelings and about us, which she could imagine I liked to, but she disliked it, she just wanted to be friends. After boxing I brought her home and sometimes I went in for a drink and went home at night (after watching a movie or something). Sometimes I texted her, sometimes she snapchatted me.
3 months later, I really miss her. I really do love her, but I do not know if this is killing me. When I text her nowadays, she mostly replies with ‘yep’ and ‘nope’. Most of my Snapchats stay unreplied.. she does not send anthing to me. On the contrary, she did not remove our picture kissing eachother on FB, replies on this Scrabble app immediately when I play a word, wants to keep boxing, still wants to go to a movie with me, went ice skating with me at my bday because she’d really liked to, and she said she was checking my social media.
Some things to know:
Ive already gotten professional help
She almost never initialized something, it was always me
She almost never visited my house, I always went to hers
She hardly goes anywhere, but likes to stay in the house
Her parents really like me and liked that I was taking her places
Ive been her first love, first kiss and only guy she ever loved (according to her)
I went to a Harry Styles concert with her once, because she had no one to go with (I really liked it)
I really want to understand her and are on mbti forums a lot
What do you people think? Is this worth waiting/hoping/working for? What steps do I have to make and what will be best for her and for me?
Thanks!