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courage, dear heart ღʕ•͡ᴥ•ʔღ
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- Dec 28, 2016
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- MBTI Type
- INFP
- Enneagram
- 459
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
I feel like I'm attracted to the same things in people, regardless of whether the relationship would be romantic or platonic. A lot of my friends have matched the things I also admire in a partner, so whenever I have guy friends I have an involuntary tendency to imagine all the possibilities of what it would be like with them, even if I'm not technically interested in them. It's not a "real" thought if that makes sense, like I don't take it seriously and often forget about it the second it happens. And I wouldn't tell them because I don't want to lead them on. It's just how my mind works for some reason, darn Ne haha. If I felt a natural, mutual, electrifying connection that surpassed friendship, then that would differentiate platonic vs romantic feelings for me. And if romantic thoughts linger, then I'd know.
I've never been in any romantic relationships and I'm also really shy/introverted/withdrawn, so 99.9% of my friendships happened because people approached me. What draws me to someone is different for each person, I can't quite pin it down. For one person it might simply be the way they talk, for another a quirky habit they have, the way their eyes brighten when they're talking about what they love, etc. More often than not it's a mix of these and more, I treasure the little things when it comes to a person. A universal must is definitely kindness/compassion. I'm attracted people who have a good sense of humor, I love to laugh and when I'm comfortable around people I can get a little more playful/mischievous (shh ) so being able to goof off together is very high on the list. At the same time, I'm attracted to serious/logical people. I have SJ parents so I think I'm a bit more grounded than some infps, but I'm still me so I can be really forgetful. I literally forgot to get my change and receipt when I went shopping today, like I straight up walked away LOL. I remembered well before I left the store though, all by myself too But should something like that happen again, it's nice to have someone around who has a good head on their shoulders, while also not being hyper critical about my occasional lack of awareness. I'm in my own head a lot, being around people more grounded and put together just leaves me in awe.
Intelligence is very attractive, I like to learn from people. Random facts are my thing, engaging in witty repartee, riddles, and all that jazz. I like feeling challenged and engaged around someone, it helps me grow, and it gives me a compelling feeling that keeps me on my toes. A sense of adventure/curiosity is attractive. Anyone who knows me knows I'm insatiably curious. About life, human nature, concepts, everything. I ask questions because I want to know, that's all there is to it. I want to try new things and discover. Unearth the beautiful mystery that lies within a person or place. Being able to do those things with someone who shares the same passion is a lovely feeling. I like encouraging people. I can be reticent sometimes, I often dream about the idea rather than actually pursuing it, so to get that gentle "push" to go for it, or an offer to tag along is seriously appreciated.
Somebody willing to show me that they care, and don't mind initiating are huge pluses for me. Like I said I'm really shy, so let me know that you enjoy my company, this way I'm not a bother to you. It also encourages me to reach out once I realize you actually like me. I don't always know how people think of me, even if I have an idea I don't like to assume...and sometimes insecurity rears it's ugly head. People who are a bit eccentric are very attractive, I think everyone's a bit of an oddball about something, discovering that is always wonderful.
Physically I'm not too picky, if I love you I'll love what you look like. And I appreciate different body types. Usually I like the tall and lean look, muscles are nice but not necessary. Colored eyes are lovely.. But as I said, there is no specific criteria set in stone. I'm picky with romantic partners, but not excessively. It mainly depends how well we connect and communicate.
I've never been in any romantic relationships and I'm also really shy/introverted/withdrawn, so 99.9% of my friendships happened because people approached me. What draws me to someone is different for each person, I can't quite pin it down. For one person it might simply be the way they talk, for another a quirky habit they have, the way their eyes brighten when they're talking about what they love, etc. More often than not it's a mix of these and more, I treasure the little things when it comes to a person. A universal must is definitely kindness/compassion. I'm attracted people who have a good sense of humor, I love to laugh and when I'm comfortable around people I can get a little more playful/mischievous (shh ) so being able to goof off together is very high on the list. At the same time, I'm attracted to serious/logical people. I have SJ parents so I think I'm a bit more grounded than some infps, but I'm still me so I can be really forgetful. I literally forgot to get my change and receipt when I went shopping today, like I straight up walked away LOL. I remembered well before I left the store though, all by myself too But should something like that happen again, it's nice to have someone around who has a good head on their shoulders, while also not being hyper critical about my occasional lack of awareness. I'm in my own head a lot, being around people more grounded and put together just leaves me in awe.
Intelligence is very attractive, I like to learn from people. Random facts are my thing, engaging in witty repartee, riddles, and all that jazz. I like feeling challenged and engaged around someone, it helps me grow, and it gives me a compelling feeling that keeps me on my toes. A sense of adventure/curiosity is attractive. Anyone who knows me knows I'm insatiably curious. About life, human nature, concepts, everything. I ask questions because I want to know, that's all there is to it. I want to try new things and discover. Unearth the beautiful mystery that lies within a person or place. Being able to do those things with someone who shares the same passion is a lovely feeling. I like encouraging people. I can be reticent sometimes, I often dream about the idea rather than actually pursuing it, so to get that gentle "push" to go for it, or an offer to tag along is seriously appreciated.
Somebody willing to show me that they care, and don't mind initiating are huge pluses for me. Like I said I'm really shy, so let me know that you enjoy my company, this way I'm not a bother to you. It also encourages me to reach out once I realize you actually like me. I don't always know how people think of me, even if I have an idea I don't like to assume...and sometimes insecurity rears it's ugly head. People who are a bit eccentric are very attractive, I think everyone's a bit of an oddball about something, discovering that is always wonderful.
Physically I'm not too picky, if I love you I'll love what you look like. And I appreciate different body types. Usually I like the tall and lean look, muscles are nice but not necessary. Colored eyes are lovely.. But as I said, there is no specific criteria set in stone. I'm picky with romantic partners, but not excessively. It mainly depends how well we connect and communicate.