[MENTION=7420]Chaotic Harmony[/MENTION] and [MENTION=5627]BlackCat[/MENTION], thank you guys for responding (and [MENTION=9913]wheelchairdoug[/MENTION])
The ISFP I'm talking about is my mom. And the situation is that I recently moved out, but when we were living together, she was asking me to do several household chores. It was hard for me to do them because of a medical condition I have, but I told her that I would keep working on trying to do it (after all, I'll need to do household chores the rest of my life). But it's extremely hard for me to do it because of that. She was patient with me originally, but now it's at the point where she's declaring that I've fooled her about the medical condition being an excuse and that in reality I just am passing the chores onto her out of selfishness.
I'm wondering if maybe because the medical condition is not obvious when you look at me, that it's easy for her to not remember it? Also, what makes it worse is that her therapist is encouraging her that I'm just being selfish.
I've told her that I need help to figure out how to do them and that I really do want to figure it out because I'll need to do it the rest of my life, but she just keeps repeating that if I really wanted to do them I'd have figured it out by now. I haven't directly asked her why she thinks I'm doing it out of bad motives, but it seems like just has it in her mind that the medical reason is no excuse and she would have seen changes by now if I was actually sincere. She is really hurt, I'm hurt because of her thinking those things of me, and it's something that hasn't gone away after I moved out.
BlackCat, I think my mom is a lot like what you've described. Do you have any suggestions about what kind of info I can give her that can help me prove it to her? I can't just do the chores. Do you think asking her what she would need to be convinced would help? (Although so far, all she's said to me is basically "just do the chores")