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Do you think I am about to hit Chanaynay or far away from it ?
yes you is
Do you think I am about to hit Chanaynay or far away from it ?
I think so last are simply the least visible. I guess it has its perks.
Im pretty sure so doms are the kind who are more gifted in dealing with people, though frankly sometimes an so dom individual may annoy me because they play over diplomatic with awful people, the fact still remains that they are typically the ones who are either universally liked, or at least seen with a benevolent neutrality i.e. harmless.
I have found being an sx/so and knowing other sx/so types we generally have some kind of charisma in some groups, but are more likely to incur hate, disgust or annoyance as well as love.
I think so last are simply the least visible. I guess it has its perks.
frankly sometimes an so dom individual may annoy me because they play over diplomatic with awful people
Being social dom just means you are aware of how much something does or does not fit in. It doesn't mean you are concerned with fitting in. Someone that keeps running afoul of social rules on accident and doesn't understand why or how not to could have a weak social instinct.Yeah I change myself to fit my environment as well. However, as a sx/so I change just enough to not be seen as WAY TOO different from everyone else. I am not as concerned with fitting in as the social doms often are.
Being social dom just means you are aware of how much something does or does not fit in. It doesn't mean you are concerned with fitting in. Someone that keeps running afoul of social rules on accident and doesn't understand why or how not to could have a weak social instinct.
That's not what I keep hearing from the social doms that I have seen on this forum, they all tend to say that "fitting in" is a big part of the social instinct.
I think it depends more on the type than the instinct though, and who you're trying to fit in with.
Hoo boy, am I guilty of the bolded or what?Im pretty sure so doms are the kind who are more gifted in dealing with people, though frankly sometimes an so dom individual may annoy me because they play over diplomatic with awful people, the fact still remains that they are typically the ones who are either universally liked, or at least seen with a benevolent neutrality i.e. harmless.
I have found being an sx/so and knowing other sx/so types we generally have some kind of charisma in some groups, but are more likely to incur hate, disgust or annoyance as well as love.
I think so last are simply the least visible. I guess it has its perks.
Hoo boy, am I guilty of the bolded or what?
Great post. The only thing I'd argue with is that to a social-dom (from my experience, which is heavily SJ biased), no one is invisible. I've found that social-lasts are very likely to mistakenly see themselves as invisible, and thus act like they are. Which annoys the shit out of me sometimes.
Hoo boy, am I guilty of the bolded or what?
Great post. The only thing I'd argue with is that to a social-dom (from my experience, which is heavily SJ biased), no one is invisible. I've found that social-lasts are very likely to mistakenly see themselves as invisible, and thus act like they are. Which annoys the shit out of me sometimes.
While I'm aware of my visibility on a practical level, it has little to do with some grand, overarching concept of social responsibility, nor do I concern myself with whether or not others get the memo.
It almost sounds like an NF idealism-thing based on some of the sentiments that seem to be shared among some of the ENFPs and INFJs on here, which although generally well-meaning, isn't how I typically view things.
And whats your partake then in social responsibility ?
I'm not sure what you're asking.
That's not what I keep hearing from the social doms that I have seen on this forum, they all tend to say that "fitting in" is a big part of the social instinct.
I do echo Haven, it's just you're very aware of what you want to fit in with and what you don't. And you have a good idea of when you're fitting in and when you're not. So you do have a strong emphasis on fitting in, but it's not really always about fitting in so much as understanding that due to the overwhelming level of interconnectedness in the world, you're going to be aligned with something, so you might as well choose it consciously.
Hoo boy, am I guilty of the bolded or what?
Great post. The only thing I'd argue with is that to a social-dom (from my experience, which is heavily SJ biased), no one is invisible. I've found that social-lasts are very likely to mistakenly see themselves as invisible, and thus act like they are. Which annoys the shit out of me sometimes.
I do echo Haven, it's just you're very aware of what you want to fit in with and what you don't. And you have a good idea of when you're fitting in and when you're not. So you do have a strong emphasis on fitting in, but it's not really always about fitting in so much as understanding that due to the overwhelming level of interconnectedness in the world, you're going to be aligned with something, so you might as well choose it consciously. The social instinct doesn't choose for you to want to fit in anywhere in particular, it just gives you a really clear picture of how you do and don't fit in (which may well be too anxious to be entirely accurate).