Gabe
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- Nov 17, 2007
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- MBTI Type
- ENTP
So, now I end up working with this fat ESFJ girl, and she is so annoying. She basically goes up to anyone and starts talking about simple, boring, everyday stuff like her roomate stealing her toilet paper and how she likes to eat cake.
She's always quick to come up with stupid judgements (notice the SJ) about me. She'll ask me to do stuff because she's too lazy to do it herself, and if I don't oblige, she says stuff like I'm mean. Maybe she's right when she says I'm rude, but I'm an INTP. DEAL WITH IT! If you want fluff or sensitivity, go talk to some F type.
My ENTP friend and I discussed how ESFJs have this way of trying to manipulate people with their stupid judgements, but how it doesn't work with us. Personally, when ESFJ girl says I'm mean, I just stand there thinking, "You're an idiot."
I know better than to tell her anything personal or meaningful because after two or three days, everyone in the whole damn store is gonna know about it. So pretty much I just stand there and mirror her level of interaction, by saying no more than boring everyday crap. Of course, sometimes we need to talk about work related stuff, so that works out okay.
Yesterday, she asked me for a ride home later and my automatic response was NO. Then she said something about not giving a "friend" a ride home. I almost told her, "You're not my friend. You're someone who stands in front of me and goes blah blah blah." Really, this girl doesn't know a thing about me. I haven't even mentioned a thing to her about my interest in personality theories.
Well, honestly, I'd like to hear her side of the story. Because right now it's obvious that you're filtering it. Is that bad? Does it make you wrong? NO. But I don't think anyone should be willing to pass judgement unless you give an UNfiltered version of your conflict with this person.
By the way, last I checked, it's not a good thing to be mean, "I'm an ___, deal with it" is a pretty lame cop-out, no matter what your type. Who knows; maybe you weren't mean. Maybe this person really is lazy. In that case, 'mean' is just a label and you ARE allowing yourself to be 'manipulated' (as you say) by it if you don't defend yourself. (again, an unfiltered version of this event would be great)