gretch
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This is sort of a sensitive subject, obviously. And I'm not usually so...horrible, haha. But this week has been a pretty difficult one for me, and I've found myself pensively considering the approach I take to this.
A sister's best childhood friend and closer acquaintance of mine (she's my photographer for my kids etc) was feeling off and went to the doctor 2.5 weeks ago, had a biopsy 2 weeks ago, found out she had stage 4 cancer. They think started in her bile-ducts, or gallbladder (which she had had removed last year routinely) and it traveled all over her stomach, and is especially in her liver right now, for those curious. I would be. Then she learn about a day ago that her cancer would not be survivable, and that chemo only might extend her life.
This abruptness has sort of shocked me. She's in her young 30's and has two very small kids, one (18 mo) that will only really remember her with pictures.
So my question to all of you is how do you approach death?
As for me, apparently not all that well. She went in a few week from this life of being happy and dreaming, to having a death sentence.
In other cases, I've always wondered what it would be like for people who are facing that void knowingly like Joan of Arc, or Anne Boleyn, holocaust or war deaths. I have no idea what I'm saying other than I know that everyone will die, birth-----death, it happens to us all, but I'm terrified of it and has just so much impact on me when I hear anything about it. I can't think too much about someone just being gone. There may be a great heaven on the other side, or nothing. but neither point comforts me.
Anyway. I'm just sad.
A sister's best childhood friend and closer acquaintance of mine (she's my photographer for my kids etc) was feeling off and went to the doctor 2.5 weeks ago, had a biopsy 2 weeks ago, found out she had stage 4 cancer. They think started in her bile-ducts, or gallbladder (which she had had removed last year routinely) and it traveled all over her stomach, and is especially in her liver right now, for those curious. I would be. Then she learn about a day ago that her cancer would not be survivable, and that chemo only might extend her life.
This abruptness has sort of shocked me. She's in her young 30's and has two very small kids, one (18 mo) that will only really remember her with pictures.
So my question to all of you is how do you approach death?
As for me, apparently not all that well. She went in a few week from this life of being happy and dreaming, to having a death sentence.
In other cases, I've always wondered what it would be like for people who are facing that void knowingly like Joan of Arc, or Anne Boleyn, holocaust or war deaths. I have no idea what I'm saying other than I know that everyone will die, birth-----death, it happens to us all, but I'm terrified of it and has just so much impact on me when I hear anything about it. I can't think too much about someone just being gone. There may be a great heaven on the other side, or nothing. but neither point comforts me.
Anyway. I'm just sad.