I am going to bounce off Syns posts, as he seems most cognizant of what may be happening here. This seems like it is trivial. You guys are fucking people over with this. I'd put money on this being how you hurt people badly.
I think it is all love. But, I have different levels of love. If I connect with you, I love you just like I might love a kitten. But, this love is loose, light, and subject to change. It is contextual and capricious..
My IRL entp and the rest of comments confirm this short term emo connection. What makes this so hard is that for you guys this is real and authentic. Otherwise I would hate you all for it.
Realize this. Fi acts like a mirror.
If someone has Fi, they physiologically mimic what they percieve you to be feeling, what you project. They have NO CHOICE, unless they block defensively, knowingly, planning ahead to do this. If you project intense short term emo vibes, vibes that imply connectivity, that we are close, that you love us, that is what Fi will make us feel in return. We will love you back.
But since Fi does not openly share with others normally until some level of emo intimacy has been achieved, we can be taken off guard by this short term intense emo you guys use, and misinterrpret it for something more significant and meaningful. You sneak up on us then dive deep with emo hooks.
Then when you wonder off to the next bright shiny, we are left behind. You dumped your emo our way, forced us to have a Fi response and show our core, our essence, then left us standing thier bleeding and raw. Fi is not a short term response.
Fi Lasts forever. By not embracing the emo response you brought forth as worthy of your long term attention, you reject it. You reject us.
For an ENFP rejection is just as painful as for you guys. I'd imagine you catch other Fi types with this too, but I cant speak for them.
They might start to, but I am very wary. So, if their attentions are unwanted and I get a whiff of it, I turn ice cold. But, if they start to wander too far away I warm up again. I want things at the level that is comfortable for me. Selfish? Yes. But, I rationalize this as best for both of us..
Much thanks, this is a sign of maturity. I'd suggest this might an important life lesson all ENTPs pay attention to. It might be one of the most important ones.
For one stands, folks you only see now and then, the short term emo isnt a big deal. The danger will be in long term interactions where there is the most risk of misleading the other person.
dont touch them, dont be sweet to them, dont flirt with them, dont imply intimacy if you do not want that intimacy in return on a longer level. Learn to recognize what you are projecting. Understand the miscommunication that WILL occur.
Completely overwhelming. Scary. Exhilarating. Burning. Scary. I think this is why we are attracted to stable types. I feel very wary. Like a unicorn.
Unicorns are not real.