What do they look like?
Do they have a harder time fitting into society? Like having to mold themselves to be less direct and nicer?
I ask because I've been testing as ENFP but it doesn't feel right. I think I naturally prefer S and T functions, but growing up my directness and in your face antics were strictly not allowed.
Also, I typically test and get interested in MBTI when dealing with my family or being around them.
Any help is appreciated
An ESTP female who uses smileys?
*shudder*
You're also using a lot of qualifiers for an ESTP female.
Of course, there's a lot of variety in type, but... generally I don't see that.
Peppermint Patty from "Peanuts" is a good fictional representative. The few that I've known in real life? They tend to be very pragmatic. Smart, yes, but most are more "masculine" in their presentation, and tom-boyish. One did try to dress up but still came across as the tomboy wearing a dress. The other is very very guyish. She has long hair but wears it long and straight without any effort put into it, like someone in the 60's or 70's; she wears t-shirts, jeans, drinks a lot of beer, and rough and tumbles with the guys.
She used to drive me a little nutty. She'd call me during work and fire questions at me point-blank that seems accusatory ("This thing you did isn't working!") and sound very abrasive, and then if I just went with it and pushed back with sound reasoning, she'd back way off. But she just had a very masculine, blunt approach; not much social finesse. The other was much quieter but still with that same tendency.
Challenge, bluff, assume the other person is playing a game and you need to maneuver yourself to win. That's the instinct. And abstractions are useless, they don't mean anything; you have to have the goods in hand, or be relying on practical things. (I'm curious to see what ESTPs thought of Obama.)
In any case, ESTP female in my experience usually = tomboy, the gal who can hang out with the guys at the bar and fit right in.
Some can style themselves femininely (especially if they're on the prowl), but they can take a guy toe-to-toe easily. I'd expect most men are attracted to them, because of their earthy spunk.