chatoyer
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- May 1, 2007
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- MBTI Type
- eNfP
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- 7w6
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/sp
Yeah, hehe, it need not make any sense! Its just a matter of feel! Lets relish in unpredictability! Today, I adore you, tomorrow you are the anti-christ. Hehe, this is subtlety my friend! Who could possibly be hurt by such a seemingly innocent and a precious thing! Hehhe! We're idealists aint we!? Why be so reactive, hehehehe, what do you want from me, I have a feel and that is it! So just trust the feel and be quite, dont expect me to make any sense! Relish in the subtlety, relish in the flights of imagination! As Neo from the Matrix said "In this world anything is possible" or as many propagandists of motivational speaking asserted "If you can imagine it you can do it!" So whats wrong, just trust the feel!
Dont you bother thinking about what the situation really is like (communicating directly isnt ideal remember, to hell with not ideal, its completely useless), just relish in your imagination and the unpreictability of romantic nuance!
Anything could be! Forget about letting the other person know what you are all about or what the relationship is like, we are idealistic romantic-dreamers! Its anything that we want! Anything that we feel like doing! And dont you dare force us into the straight answer! Dont you dare spoil our precious mood with your insipid exhortations for directness and making sense of things! Dont you dare threaten the sacred volatility of feelings, this moment I feel this way the next moment I will feel another way, thats the unpredictability of romance you should relish in!
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Summary: This whole appeal to romantic unpredictability and nuance of feeling is just an attempt by Fs to deny responsibility for their actions. Or quite simply they refuse to communicate directly because they simply wish to do whatever they feel like doing. Only communicating directly will make their position clear. Only if their position is clear could they be held accountable for it. If its not clear, there is nothing that is stopping them from acting like children or simply using Feeling excessively, or in other words in that case there is nothing stopping them from acting on whim, appeasing every last vulgar impulse of theirs.
93JC is absolutely right, direct and reasonable communication should be absolutely vouched for. That is the case because it is an ethical truism that people should accept responsibility for their actions, there is no reason at all why Fs should be exampt from such an obligation.
What a great demonstration of Fe (that whole post)! Thanks, Solitary Walker........
So, you think Ti dominance leads to inflexibility and autocratic behavior in relationships? To compromise or try to suit the other person is a loss of integrity and autonomy?
Clear communication is important, it transcends type. But are you defending the INTP habit that can be interpreted as withdrawal or avoidance as clear, direct communication? Is no communication direct or could it be interpreted a myriad of ways by the other partner?
I guess the INTPs I know IRL are aberrant, and have learned to negotiate their relationships somehow, I'm sure you would disapprove, that they have lost integrity and their autonomy is in the balance.
I even know a family guy INTP who married an ESFJ!! Horrors! How could that ever work????