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. I'm going to be in Netherlands in April. I know most people speak English but I want to speak some Dutch, cos last time I couldn't.
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I have been classified as a very vocal, opinionated girl, but I am not, nor have I ever been talkative in the negative chatty Cathy sense.ENFP’s are many times described as charming, witty, funny etc. This all sounds really great or too good to be truebut let’s consider the other side of the coin and I mean let’s consider it the positive way (Hey – I’m an ENFP anyway).
So, I’ve been told that I’m too talkative and very challenging to talk to (a psychologist said this) because of my speed in talking and the speed my brain jumps from one thing to another to the third and back to the first and so on. I’ve been always thinking that my way of thinking is easy to follow and that it’s pretty easy to talk to me. Now I understand the trouble many people have with me. Sometimes I think it’s too many people who have trouble understanding my way of thinking.
Do you have the same problem/do people see this with ENFP’s?
Any other challenges people have with you fellow ENFP’s?
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, but, oh well.Guilty, guilty, guilty and guilty.
I have been classified as a very vocal, opinionated girl, but I am not, nor have I ever been talkative in the negative chatty Cathy sense.
Sometimes, when I am superdupersuper excited I will talk very fast but usually I talk at a normal speed and enunciate my words clearly.
Oratory is something I feel quite comfortable engaging in, and I have been told by many that I am a "great speaker", whatever that means.
As for being understood, I really try my hardest to relay my thoughts and ideas clearly and most effectively, and depending on my audience, I will moderate how much Ne I will allow to flow through my speech.
Some of my zanier ideas are met with
ENFP’s are many times described as charming, witty, funny etc. This all sounds really great or too good to be true
So, I’ve been told that I’m too talkative and very challenging to talk to (a psychologist said this) because of my speed in talking and the speed my brain jumps from one thing to another to the third and back to the first and so on. I’ve been always thinking that my way of thinking is easy to follow and that it’s pretty easy to talk to me. Now I understand the trouble many people have with me. Sometimes I think it’s too many people who have trouble understanding my way of thinking.
Do you have the same problem/do people see this with ENFP’s?
Any other challenges people have with you fellow ENFP’s?
Sometimes they assume that because they've thought about telling you something, the conversation has actually already taken place! They imagine that other people are as good at mind-reading as they are; they're almost invariably wrong about that. They can be overly sensitive to perceived slights and read far too much into situations. They agonize over stuff rather than come to conclusions or take action. They are too good at getting other people to think/do stuff for them. They may have a lot of potential and talent but are only able to see these things in others, rarely in themselves. They are often unaware of their motivations - self-deception can be a problem. They ask for lots of advice but rarely take it. They can be very intense at the beginning of a relationship but then get disillusioned easily and can cut people off completely when that happens. They are crap at follow through. They are always at least an hour late for everything. They talk too much.
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I agree with most of what you wrote there. Looks like you know some ENFP very well or have analyzed somebody well...?
About the advice asking part - I ask advice because I want to see the thing from different angles. So, when asking for advice I'm not really asking for advice, I'm asking for a different kind of view. When (if) I get to see the thing from different angles, (maybe) then I can decide what I want to do. And if somebody tells me what to do, I will certainly not do it (I hate when people give orders to me
I don't get what you mean by this.
Never as good as myself, per se, but I definitely tend to think people are better at mind-reading than they actually are.
Sometimes, yes.
Guilty.
If I don't want to do something so much so that I'll refuse to do it, I will deal with the consequences of my not doing it, but if someone wants whatever it is that I don't want to do to be done, they are more than welcome to do it themselves, or "for me".
Perhaps.
Disagree entirely with this, wow, wholeheartedly. I hate my inability to deceive myself. Having self-awareness is both a blessing and a curse.
I am not one to really ask for much advice. But when I am in a desperate enough situation to actually ask for it, I will go to someone or some source I respect and listen to the advice that is given.
Guilty.
Guilty.
Untrue.
Untrue.They talk too much.
yeah...it's a rare person that understands where i'm coming from or what i'm saying.
unless i'm really deep in a conversation with someone i don't like to use a lot of words...i think i view it as impolite...taking too much of their time or something...so i turn into a lazy talker and expect them to fill in the gaps...and it can be misunderstood...or come out too blunt.
i guess this is why people think i'm odd...haha...idk
It's linked with the mind-reading thing - believing you've actually had a conversation with someone IRL when you've only had it in your head.
Sometimes they assume that because they've thought about telling you something, the conversation has actually already taken place! They imagine that other people are as good at mind-reading as they are; they're almost invariably wrong about that. They can be overly sensitive to perceived slights and read far too much into situations. They agonize over stuff rather than come to conclusions or take action. They are too good at getting other people to think/do stuff for them. They may have a lot of potential and talent but are only able to see these things in others, rarely in themselves. They are often unaware of their motivations - self-deception can be a problem. They ask for lots of advice but rarely take it. They can be very intense at the beginning of a relationship but then get disillusioned easily and can cut people off completely when that happens. They are crap at follow through. They are always at least an hour late for everything. They talk too much.
blue...i've done this a lot...i think. actually just the other day i asked someone a question about something i was thinking...but never said...i was kind of embarrassed...i mean really who does that!!??It's linked with the mind-reading thing - believing you've actually had a conversation with someone IRL when you've only had it in your head.
Funny how no-one ever owns up to self-deception.....
Loving observation.
Loving observation.
These are just the frustrating things though, per OP. I could write pages about all the great stuff!
