I agree, if the violence makes sense or actually happened, I will have a morbid curiosity and want to watch, even if I do get squeamish. That's so interesting about the contrast with how you feel about embarrassing social situations though! I don't remember having been affected the same way by those kinds of things, so I am curious if you have an example of one of his clips that makes your skin crawl! I'm not familiar with him, so maybe I'll change my outlook after watching haha
I don't know if I have any clips available or time to look through, but basically it's reminiscent of some of the early Daily Show stuff too that Steve Carrell and Stephen Colbert used to do (and were really great at, because they never broke character) before they got famous -- basically mock interviews and the like where it was so deadpan that the person being interviewed didn't realize they were actually in a mock interview and getting played the whole time but would probably be really pissed off if they caught on.
A good example that you might be familiar with is the Borat films with Sasha Baron Cohen -- he's another guy really great at this, plus Maria Bakalova from Borat 2. (That whole thing with her in Rudy Giuliani's hotel room is one example... hilarious and cringy and embarrassing, although I don't feel that bad for Giuliani.) If it's someone who really deserves to be trashed, it doesn't bother me as much but when it's just an average person who hasn't done anything to deserve it my skin crawls.
It basically takes someone with great comedic sensibilities, who can be completely deadpan, and just twist the screws as hard as possible at the other person's expense and who isn't afraid at all if they figure it out and blow up, and who can wing it on a dime in the situation no matter what happens. I think I just feel the embarrassment for the other person once they figure it out and also that they'll explode in a violent outburst or something.
When it comes to social cringe, do you find it is more secondhand or does it remind you of something similiar you've experienced? (My bf is also sensitive to social cringe, and says it happens when he sees a caricature that reminds him of how he used to be, and feels the shame personally, so I wonder how others experience cringe.)
Yeah, I think I am empathizing with the "victim" so to speak. I have always easily felt embarrassed in social situations -- there are things I've done years ago that aren't that big a deal but at the time I made a social mistake -- and I still cringe when I think about them.
Oh, one dumb thing: I wore a t-shirt once to a gathering with my in-laws at the time that had a huge face of Mr. Bean on the front (you can laugh, this is also funny) and I didn't realize they were planning to take pictures. So we took this picture and everyone else looked nice and I had this huge Rowan Atkinson face on my shirt totally popping out between people in the photo and I could tell them were mad at me -- even though no one had told me, and they weren't going to say anything directly, although snide side comments were made from time to time. I felt so awful about it that even though desktop photoshop wasn't super advanced at the time (this is more than two decades ago), I spent time just coloring in my shirt black and ended up sending them / printing the photo without the Mr. Bean face. Personally, it's funny, but I also find a lot of shame in it emotionally -- enough that I felt I had to fix it somehow.
I can cringe over things I did even as a teenager -- where I misunderstood a situation and realize now I said or did something stupid or accidentally offensive. Yeah, it's my anxiety acting up. "WHY DID I DO/SAY THAT??" It could tie into shame I felt with my parents too, I dunno. My dad was quite the asshat and capable of making anyone feel stupid when they disagreed with him and not giving them any word edgewise.
If the context is not regarding embarrassment I identify with, I'm not really bothered. I can listen to the nastiest/worst jokes and not feel any kind of cringe about them, regardless of what I think about the joke, for example.