I've been watching "Being John Malkovich" as my background repeat movie.
It really strikes a chord with me about existential isolation. I don't know that this impression is necessarily the movie's intent, but it strikes me that the characters have an absence of self-awareness, and all tend to compensate by controlling another entity outside themselves. It is like their sense of self and connection is their ability to control something else: Craig with his puppets, Lotte with her animals, Maxine with other breathing humans, and by extension all the other incidental cast. Even Malkovich as an actor has to become someone else in order to exist, to control the character he plays instead of being who he is. There is no self, no connection, only supplanting.
Then when Malkovich goes through the portal, even then he is not himself, but everyone outside of him becomes him. It reminded me or narcissism on a subconscious level. It is like self is a rainbow, a projection, but never actually real. Self cannot form the point of one side of a connection if it doesn't exist, but others don't exist either, so everyone is a shifting mirage. I've always felt an uneasiness and pain from the lack of connection to others, but hadn't considered the lack of connection to self as a new level of existential isolation.
It is fascinating but depresses the hell out of me.
Yeah, I love this film -- one of the first of that mind-bending quirk genre that I ever saw. (My first Charlie Kaufman film script too, I think, and I ended up tracking his career/works after.) The film also sticks out to me as well because it's (1) John Cusack doing something edgy, after getting sucked into Con*Air and other more popular films, (2) Cameron Diaz giving a great performance as Lotte, she's almost unrecognizable and totally playing against her normal type, she can actually act, and (3) first time I saw Catherine Keener and again ended up following her work afterwards, I just loved her here. Also, as a weird bit of trivia, Orson Bean is the company owner in this film; I had gotten acquainted with him for doing Bilbo in the Rankin-Bass version of The Hobbit as a kid but had never even known what he looked like, so it was just wild to me to hear Bilbo's voice coming out of his character's mouth.
Anyway, I think you are totally right. All of the characters seems to be lacking self-awareness and are stuck in their own little interaction circles which seem pretty solipsist in nature. I love Kaufman scripts because they force me to think outside the box or at least are great at using the surreal to investigate the inherent aspects of existence. I don't think I had ever pulled it together as succinctly as you did here, though, but it is obvious in hindsight, especially with all the "malkovich malkovich malkovich" simulacrums of Malkovich when one goes through the portal. I think it's remarkable Malkovich even did the film. Kaufman is probably also commenting on artists in general as well, there's a certain level of narcissism that comes attached as you're absorbed to finding the reflection of yourself within your art, but in the process of creation it can become a twisted hell.
(There are other allusions there too -- creation of art is like creation of new life, artists might narcissistically look for themselves in their work but non-artists do so in the creation of other things, even their own children, like when a parent is so self-absorbed that they can't deal when their child ends up being "uncontrollable" and/or not a proper reflection of themselves in their mind.)
So do Lotte and Maxine actually break out of this cycle, with their daughter? Did they truly engage each other as Other and Equal?
The ending is very haunting, about the end result of this level of narcissism and control -- you end up with no control and no one else.
Oddly enough, I just rewatched this. I found that the theme of communication was a big one. I would speculate that the control stems from an inability or unwillingness to communicate. Perhaps the movie is suggesting that if we cannot communicate what we want, and who we are, we will seek control. Craig, for example, seems only capable of expressing himself through puppets; he's extremely dishonest in his relationship and honestly kind of a jerk even before he becomes obsessed with Malkovich.
Yeah, Craig seems the most corrupt altogether and from the start, he's mainly obsessed with his own artistic vision.
Maxine can come off as a bitch, but it seems she is looking for someone real and enjoys controlling only in the sense that controlling others is her way to avoid being controlled by all the controlling types. Her relationship with Lotte is a bit different.
Lotte is still kind of a hot mess, but Craig seems to be the most willing to control. Which is really wild, because he is also the most passive character in the film, it feels like. I think it's because he is so weak that he is unable to relate to others as equals, so he tries to relate through the veil of puppetry, and yet puppets are a mechanism where the object of the relationship is being controlled by the other. It's really interesting that he is both the controller and yet the most passive-feeling and weakest character in the film.