What kind of man wants a submissive obedient wife? A weak one.
I found the most stubborn strong willed woman I ever met, because I wanted an equal, a partner, someone I couldn't dominate with my will.
That it got screwed up because of our mutual childhood issues doesn't mean goal was bad. Hopefully, we both can survive midlife transformation and our messed up family and reap the rewards one day.....
Any insight on this?
If you are trying to find a sub using typology, the enneagram is a better place to look.
I dated an ISTJ before and noticed that they are very submissive. They are duty fulfillers so will naturally do what the ENTJ wants (50 Shades Of Gray Type deal). This is highly attractive for the ENTJ and noticed that ISTJ we have the best sexual chemistry. Any insight on this?
"Depends completely on the individuals involved"
I disagree, thats like saying ENTJ's aren't dominant but depends on them. All ISTJ's and ISFJ's tend to be more submissive, but the method of convincing them to do what you want will be different. For example, with the ISFJ you have to appeal to their emotions like I will pretend to cry and they will cave in (like pretend to cry, lol). The ISTJ you have to give them facts, and concrete evidence why you should be intimate with them. True story.
In my experience, ENTJ is cool to be with but it's constant power fights. I'm not the submissive type at all. It's good tho' with the fights as it ensures it's not boring, heh.
Not that I view myself as a duty fulfiller either. I'm only ISTJ by the dichotomies.
Lol what on earth do you mean by concrete evidence about why I should be intimate with a guy? Please give an example of this sort of reasoning, I'm really curious lol.
Not into BDSM, but into dating a real women. I know I originally said sexual chemistry, but I am also attracted to that type of personality. Just howyou like a man who kind of takes initiative and is a "man" in your definition. Because you seek this dominant, or proactive guy doesn't mean your into BDSM. Nor does it mean your into BDSM when you want a guy to take control in the bedroom. Thats dominant, not BDSM. There seems to be a lack of women these days, submissive women are the pillars of all great men. This is what I am looking for, I know I mentioned sexual chemistry but a submissive attitude is an all encompassing personality.
Okie dokie then. BDSM encompasses much more than the narrow definition you are presenting here. You can find real people who are submissive across the board, that is their personality, what they identify with. Not as a fetish or a set of activity. Male led, domestic discipline, submissive wives...this sort of thing. Those all fall under the BDSM umbrella. Stop talking about it like it's some kind of extreme lifestyle choice, it's exactly what you're looking for, going by your posts..
I do find it interesting that there seems to be a glut of men looking for these types of women all of a sudden around here.
I told my ISTJ girlfriend that sex prolongs the life of men, and that men are more successful when they get more sex from their girlfriends. I showed her facts from online and statistics backing up my claim. After that we had sex everyday around 8pm when it best fit her busy schedule,
While there is nothing wrong with traditional roles, if this desire to have a submissive partner is paramount and supersedes the traits of the individual you are attracted to, then you are falling more in love with an idea than the person.
So yes, it would be difficult to find because it doesn't exist in absolutes. Something to think about.
Submissiveness is a trait just like any other trait of the individual, no?
Weaker men have to find submissive, strong men create submissive...lmao
Also the theory that those who are dominant have a desire to be dominated. They really want to release control, they just need a special someone. So they spend their life dominating other until they find that person that puts them in thier place...lol
Or a submissive who is like...your not doing it right damnit...do this and this. Control me like I want to be controlled...lmao
All the different flavors of dom personality wise.
You're right. But I hate to even bring people like this into BDSM. They make very bad Doms. Selfish Doms who never do the homework needed to understand their role. To be a good Dom, you need to have empathy. Or at least, felt a cane swat themselves for learning purposes. You can't have your ego wrapped up so tightly in that role that your pride gets in the way of knowledge and improvement.
If you are trying to find a sub using typology, the enneagram is a better place to look.
You're right. But I hate to even bring people like this into BDSM. They make very bad Doms. Selfish Doms who never do the homework needed to understand their role. To be a good Dom, you need to have empathy. Or at least, felt a cane swat themselves for learning purposes. You can't have your ego wrapped up so tightly in that role that your pride gets in the way of knowledge and improvement.