Excuse me, but what? I know I'm profound on these forums. but I'm like this for a reason. Obviously I'm severely troubled, or was. But I'm just looking for other possible solutions. and I know MBTI isn't necessarily like that, but maybe if I related to other people like my personality 'structure' I would find some similar past experienced issues.
Okay, I actually did know you would read my message and interpret it incorrectly...
but since I had already typed it out and needed to go... I left it the way it was and kept my fingers crossed. Finger-crossing...as I have since learned...really doesn't do anything. I should have revised my message and posted it at a later time. Let's try this again...
Is there anything inherently wrong with losing interest in something you used to be passionate about? Because I don't think there is. And yet you are saying that when this occurs you
beat yourself up. And so I am asking you "why?" Why is this your response in these instances? (<-in a different circumstance I would leave my message at this...but I'm just going to continue to close the gap here.)
I am under the assumption you beat yourself up in these instances because somewhere along the lines you came to the conclusion that losing interest in a former passion was a bad thing. Do I assume correctly? 'cause I'm going to keep responding as if I have... You have placed a negative value on 'losing interest' and so that when you do you punish yourself. Now, I am one of "those people" that believes no one can truly find a solution to a problem unless we understand where it originates from. Where do you think this originates from?
Here let's try an example from
my ENFP life. Do you think there is anything inherently wrong with getting-up out of your seat during a spelling test to admire the beautiful flowers your class is growing in milk cartons in the window sill? Because I don't think there is. And yet I got full-on busted for doing this...shamed really by my 2nd grade teacher in front of the whole class. Here, I had been as quiet as a mouse...the only person that actually saw me moving about was the teacher herself so I had made no disruption to the class. The class spelling words were well below my literary level...the teacher knew this...and I was keeping track of the words in my head. I could have caught up on the test quite easily...and yet I was made to believe what I had done was wrong. FYI - apparently getting-up during a spelling test is a totally lame thing to do. Why though really? Why is the world structured in such a way that most often makes me the 'wrong one'? Because I assure you...if I wasn't
bored out of my scull at the slow, uniform, methodical, mind-numbing pace with which we did
everything I probably wouldn't have had to try and *feel alive* by getting-up and looking at the flowers. If I was part of a dynamic, curiosity driven learning environment where I was interacting directly with agile-minded classmates tackling multiple subjects all at one time...
I bet you I could have been right! But that's not the structure I found myself in. And so I was wrong...and I was wrong a lot.
So now why do you think you beat yourself up when you lose interest in a subject?
eta^^okay you know what...still don't feel good about leaving my message in this way...so I'm just going to connect all the dots.
If the world was established and structured by ENFPs...moving from interest to interest would probably be a fantastic thing. Something you would be praised for. That's not how it is. In our society a value has been placed on...picking one passion and sticking with that one passion for the rest of your natural existence. You are in fact wrong according to 'what is valued' and you are treating yourself as such. I would like you to stop doing that. Beating yourself up will only make matters worse for you...it does no good. You need to start becoming okay with the way you are wired...or you need to find constructive ways to keep your passion alive. Capice?