I'm answering as if I'm ENFJ, because, why not. I might as well, since there ain't a lot of ENFJs around.
I don't have a problem with logic or even with exercising logic (my degrees are all technical), but overuse of logic for its own sake, pedantry, and searching for lynchpins in arguments makes me want to stab myself. I wind up thinking, "why are we
doing this?"
I have given at least a few lectures on technical subjects (intro to boolean logic, etc.) where even
I wasn't paying attention to what I was saying. It's hard to motivate a classroom when I'm not so excited about the stuff myself.
Can I ask something similiar.
Does logic play a part in ENFJ's decision making? Example, if they have an interest in someone, but they rationalise that it will not work out due to logistical or other reasons (even though they really like the person), then what do they do? Do they decide logically and end it before it starts??
Less mature people might think that love has a way of working itself out. Likewise, less mature people can rationalize the hell out of any choice that they make without actually seeking 'truth.'
In a relationship, we'd have to have pragmatism and logic in the mix. If one wants a relationship, then it's important to ensure that it has a solid foundation. "Is the trust there? Are we
progressing or stagnating? Will it actually work out?"
The logic supports an
end, though. The fiancee asked me why I was with her and why I cared about her. I
could spill a litany of logical reasons and try to rationalize my choice, but the best explanation was, "I just do." And that was satisfying enough for both of us.
Also: If an ENFJ likes you, and he moves to another city (for a job assignment eg) for about 3 months. Does being 'out of sight out of mind' apply? Does it mean he will forget you, or will he still pursue you when hes back??
Three months isn't a long time at all. I'm sure that
anyone who halfway gives a crap could wait that long--but then, I've heard plenty of horror stories from my military friends about military folks getting deployed, leaving their wives at home to cheat on them.
I wouldn't generalize my experiences to everyone or to a specific type, but I
met my fiancee when she was living in another city and conducted the relationship long-distance for the first nine months before she moved here. We
planned on her moving here, because we both saw potential.
Oh, and that plan took some logic to recognize and to pull off
