Do you start imagining people for company when under influence of alcohol?
I thought the key question of the OP is he doesn't know places where to try to get to know people besides loud party places that he doesn't like (I have the same issue, heh). Do you have some kind of hobbies (or interests in stuff) that you could do with other people together?
This was exactly what I was asking, I don't know where to meet people. I do have hobbies, I jog, play violin, ski maby once in awhile, I enjoy doing activities alone. It helps me explore in depth.
What do you look like?
Why don't you like clubs and bars? Have you been to a club before?
club, I'm guessing loud music, dancing, pretty dark, hard to have conversation. I just don't like loud environment. I like the calm quiet atmosphere.
You need to be happy alone before you can be happy together. The fear of loneliness will pollute any relationship you have.
you want me to be alone forever? I already said I enjoy being alone, doesn't mean I'm gonna be alone forever. I still need human interaction.
Hate to say it but it sounds like you do need a few good quality friends think2much. Expecting that you can be 100% independent seems to be causing your problems from what I can tell. Maybe you should let go of that and realize everyone needs others in their life. The best way I have found to be in a relationship is to have a few solid friendships before to help keep me healthy since relationships are high risk in that they come in and out seeing if you are right for them. Relationships are not the place to become a better and healthier person and if you expect it you are going to be hurt and mangled for misusing them. You will become more and more negative if you use them for what you are really seeking. I set 3-6 months to go to activities around town that I enjoy to meet and vet out 3-4 friends. It was a excellent step in my life and I recommend it.
kinda hard to find a good quality friends for a guy like me, I would prefer to meet people around my age group since they can relate better. Kinda hard since most are at university or grad school.
+1000 points for true-ness.
But, in regards to the OP: If you want to meet someone... mm, I suppose I can only really suggest perhaps trying to join a club or something where you might meet people with similar interests? Build yourself a small network of people and contacts. Make it known that you're not one for nightclubs and stuff so that they don't invite you out to those kinds of things, but never turn down an opportunity to do something else.
Most of my hobbies don't require any social interaction. My hobbies are mostly individual type.
1)Find a hobby.
2)Take a class at a community college.
3)Take a walk.
4)Go to a club/bar and just sit there. I do this all the time and usually by the end of the night I've made a couple wallflower friends. Alcohol doesn't hurt.
Honestly, if you put yourself out there..the right people will find you. Go out into the world and do what you want to do. Eventually you will either get the urge to talk someone or someone will talk to you. Yesterday, a random girl tried to start a conversation with me at the bustop...it's not uncommon for complete strangers to talk to one another on the bus.
I'm not gonna take a class just to meet friends.
take a walk? You would have a better chance eating at diner alone. Honestly what kind of advice is that? How about I drive my car around to make friends.
It's not hard to strike a conversation to random people. I want to make friends not make small talk with everyone. Two different things
Sorry, but I don't think you get to know people by "taking a walk" or because you wait for the bus (talking 5 words doesn't mean for me getting to know someone). Or maybe I just live in another world.
Having a small talk with someone you'll never meet again is pointless. I want to meet friends not strike a conversation to random people on the street.
EDIT: I guess my question is for someone similar like me how did you guys meet your friends?