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Easier said than done of course, but even slowing down enough to think all that can create enough distance between me and the cause. This process helps me and the more I do it, the more I find a certain level of peace internally. Some situations I can do it in 10 minutes, others may take months or years to work through this. I can tell you right now, focusing on anger, hurt, offense, frustration, and pain only makes things worse. That shit feeds upon itself, kinda like an Ouroboros.
oooo, this is weird...but I have to feel that pain. I actually have to allow it time to process, even a few days. I will feel, feel, feel, pain or hurt in cycles. It cycles through anger a bit-but the pain is where the lesson gets learned?
After a few days, suddenly my view will have shifted-not logically, but internally my emotionally mindset will differ. I think this may be new Fi rules/values being built. I can feel my emotional response being discordant in places and that as I allow myself to feel, my brain is sorting out the wrinkles. It feels like solving math problems using handfuls of pudding, WTF-but the final emotional answer trumps whatever Te logical answer I already had developed. Or I can logically understand something, but I still have to "feel" the answer, to be okay with it. Freaky weird.
The trick-I cannot learn these emotional lessons by watching other people learn them like I can with Te. I seem to have to feel them myself.