[NT] NTs: how often do you let someone else win?

[Blown Ghost]

Time to come clean!

 

[EffEmDoubleyou]

Never. But I like it when they do on their own

 

[slowriot]

pretty often, winning isnt everything.

If we speak arguments sometimes its just not worth the effort to change peoples oppinion.

In sports, I dont care. I just participate. I like competition sure, but its not everything.

 

[Valiant]

I let children win, until they've learned well enough to pose a challenge They get so happy, and that's cute. Besides, letting them win and stepping things up as you go keeps it interesting for them from a pedagogical view, instead of making it seem like an unsurmountable wall of resistance that they'll just quit in front of and make a sad face.

I also let women win over me in arm wrestling/other strength related stuff, but they always know it's for fun
They do however seem to appreciate it.

 

[ReflecTcelfeR]

I try my best to win in every argument. I don't always win, but I don't always view it as a competition either.

 

[figsfiggyfigs]

NNevvvahh!!!

... well. Sometimes, but only if I don't hate the person

 

[Lucas]

Rarely to never.

 

[suttree]

If I'm better than they are I'll try to develop auxiliary skills (not bring my a-game so to speak) but I still won't let them win. That way we both get better and are challenged.

 

[Kasper]

I don't tend to purposely let other people win, it's more a matter of if my attention diminishes I won't care about winning myself, and sometimes I'll want the competition to just be over.

 

[Oaky]

Let others win... It depends.
Maybe children, seniors and those I'm teaching to get them to understand the dynamics of what is supposed to be won.
Otherwise I dont allow others to win unless I have nothing to gain and the opponent gains a certain significant amount.

 

[Coriolis]

Never. But I like it when they do on their own

Yes. Sometimes I give myself a handicap if the other person is considerably less skilled (especially if a child). If it's an argument and there is no clear right and wrong, Iwil sometimes let the other person have their way, just to be considerate.

 

[Vie]

I always let children win, but make them work for it.

In arguments? I never back down.


Ever. Unless I have been proved wrong...and as long as it is not publicly displayed that I was wrong, I let the other person "win". But if they do it in front of people? OOoOOo, I will bring up things that have no relevancy just to make them look stupid -- and thereby WIN! It's evil, but I really don't like a lot of people knowing when I am wrong.

Games? I am an intense competitive person -- sports especially. I hate losing and refuse to lose.

My boy has this motto, "I never lose". Mine is, "I always win." Bahaha, it's quite...interesting around us to say the least.

 

[kelric]

*Let* someone win? Never (cases with children possibly excepted). But when it comes to games and such, that doesn't mean that I'm particularly invested in the outcome, either. In discussions, I'm a bit more dogged about it, but can be convinced if the circumstances warrant it. In general I'd say that I'm neither a pushover or a poor sport about it. One of my few redeeming qualities .

 

[lunalum]

In inimportant things, I will let the other win if they ask for me to let them win, or do it unasked if we are talking about a child under the age of six.

For important things, I might sometimes give the impression that the other person has won (or at least that I haven't won) if things escalate to the point of abusive, but it is never more than a slight impression.

 

[5231311252]

Never. I think it's insulting to 'let' someone win, because it's as if you don't think they can beat you without a handicap.

 

[Blown Ghost]

Interesting. I appreciate you all taking the time to respond to this.

It's something I'm curious about because I almost always lets someone else win. When I was a teenager I was very competitive and after a while I found that I could win at just about anything. After enough of that I started to enjoy seeing someone else enjoy a little victory of their own (especially people who seemed to have so few in their life) more than winning, so I would never put forth my full potential. I still have my same drive to accomplish things when they're important, though. On occasions I will do my best (and sometimes I still find a challenge) so that in the back of my mind I still know I'm the top dog. It's something I've never talked about until now, and admittedly I wonder what it means. Does this mean I lose my ENTJ card? Have I lost my edge?

 

[Kasper]

Does this mean I lose my ENTJ card?

Yes, please hand it in to your nearest competitive chess club!

 

[Blown Ghost]

Yes, please hand it in to your nearest competitive chess club!

Funny you should say that... there was ONE thing I would regularly lose at and that was chess vs. my best friend. We would play every day over lunch. At first I would win but then he read a bunch of books on chess strategy and totally kicked my ass henceforth. I will have to remember to visit the chess club next time I need a healthy does of humiliation.

 

[copperfish17]

Hmm... I usually don't care for actually "winning" an argument. I'm more likely to either

1) Ignore the person who's trying to argue with me
2) Agree to disagree

 

[Fluffywolf]

Never.