I think a public service message should apply to ANY type of person, thank you very much. It's not what we are per se, it's our own personal morality and how we treat others that determines whether or not we end up abusing or taking advantage of other people. Anyone of any type in any system can be dangerous in relationships.
I think if you sense someone pushing past your boundaries and they're not responding to any pushback you're giving them, then you need to slam them to a halt and put the blast doors in place, all typing aside.
This is true, but it seems Sx doms by the typological classification seek intimate/intense bonding and knowledge moreso than the other subtypes. And personal ethics and empathy can take a while to develop, I think personal ethics in most people develop
with growing empathy and/or understanding about the impact our actions have on others. And some people just don't care as much compared to others to begin with. I guess I never realized that you could really want "intimacy" or to know intimate details about people but otherwise not really give a flip about them.
So just to clarify, when I said 'vampiric' I didn't necessarily mean emotionally vampiric. I meant it more to highlight the very 1 sided nature of the 'transaction'.
Again, I'm also some kind of SX dom myself, I actually scored SX on a (paid, bah, yeah I paid for it) E test so I understand the desire and thrill for and from deep connection. I find nothing wrong with getting deep and personal, per sae when it's consensual and there is transparency about what is going on (i.e. "being on the same page").
I'm taken aback that some people don't seem to (and bear with me, this is cheesy) honor or respect that intimacy and trust. In a way it means nothing to them, it's more driven by intellectual curiosity or boredom or to fill some kind of need inside them etc. *and the other person doesn't know that*. Whether out of pure detached curiosity or intentional manipulation, the end effect is the same - scoring notches for each person you can "get". I really doubt if the other people in these imbalanced scenarios would have agreed to participate if they knew the Sx dom's (or okay, just other pushy person) actual motivations and investment in *them* the person and not just their apparent interest in gaining their trust and personal information.
I feel like I've written about this a few times on the forum in different sub-forums in different threads - the idea of unintentionally misleading people and not owning responsibility when people feel hurt or duped or rejected when you move on and never had the intention of staying anyhow. Whether it's people thinking you are flirting with them or "like them" (like "that") or that you are "best friends" when you are only as detachedly interested in them as you are everyone else in the world.
It's true, it's not endemic to just one type, but the phenomenon draws...disapproval? distaste? from me whenever I encounter it. And I judge it as an insider, not an outsider, because I feel like I understand the base instinct that would drive someone to want to "know" someone else intimately. I've always just considered it "an honor" and (again, cheesy, bear with me) something almost "sacred" when someone allows you to build a trust with them and "know them" whether it's a fleeting "ships passing in the night" thing to a lifelong bond. (BTW, I'm not SP, I'm SX/SO or SO/SX) So perhaps my comments do come off as judgement and more harsh. I'm just advocating for more responsible behavior and respect for the other people involved in the equation.
And it's true, IRL regardless of type (because most people, I have no idea what their MBT or Enneagram is or even the color of their parachute

) if I feel people pushing at my front door and I am suspect about their *motivation* I get curt real fast. In the past, I have gotten downright irritated because I think "you have not EARNED this conversation from me (yet)/ you cannot mine information from me for your personal amusement/ this may not mean much to you but it means a lot to me/ I am not interested in forming this level of bond with you so access DENIED/ etc." I thought I was subtle but my friends (and people I've dated) have told me it's real obvious when I am purposely avoiding answering questions.
Okay, sorry this is so "discursive"

and not more articulate, it's been a long week and I was just popping in!