Wait, most people aren't like this? Come to think of it, people usually do look over at you when they're listening, don't they? I just thought it was normal to be able to listen intently to someone while looking in a different direction. Go figure.Be afraid, very afraid. We will hear your voice crack, see your eyes all of a sudden water up and if its not true to who you are we will pick it up. You have to be able to realize which part of our senses we are actually paying attention to. I can be looking around a room, while still focused 100% on what you said. Have tripped up many people when I respond to what they said while watching TV as I am not interested in the TV, its just something to look at. My senses are disconnected in this fashion.
Be afraid, very afraid. We will hear your voice crack, see your eyes all of a sudden water up and if its not true to who you are we will pick it up. You have to be able to realize which part of our senses we are actually paying attention to. I can be looking around a room, while still focused 100% on what you said. Have tripped up many people when I respond to what they said while watching TV as I am not interested in the TV, its just something to look at. My senses are disconnected in this fashion.
How accurate are your observations about small details in people? Are there people who you are consistently right or wrong in these?
It tends to be that my automatic perception is absolutely correct but any speculations I try to put together about somebody's agenda is clumsy and fairly inaccurate.
I agree. I am good at getting people to talk, not good at guessing agenda. I can piece things together, but picking up gestures and stuff I am alot better at. In all honesty I hold people to what they say and eventually the truth always comes out when they trap themselves because I hold them to what they say. It never really bothers me when I find out they werent telling the truth, more interested in why they didnt so next time they dont feel like they need to hide things.
I dont notice every piece of detail, just certain things catch my attention when they seem off. Because of this I tend to take people at face value at first until I can get more info to piece together. I might know you for ever and have no clue what color your eyes are, bt I will notice instantly the second your eyes start to tear up, or change in the slightest bit. Like I see the expression as opposed to the object.
Is listening to someone without looking at them related to SPs? I'm curious since this is something a lot of people find annoying in me.
How accurate are your observations about small details in people? Are there people who you are consistently right or wrong in these?
Funny thing. ISTPs can tell you everything about a person but their eye color. It's like we only use peripheral vision...which often picks up more info than a direct gaze.
I don't know. When speaking one on one with someone - even if I'm just listening - I strongly prefer eye contact.
In fact, I'd say the motion that trips the biggest alarm is that tiniest of tiny nervous twitches that a person has when they're shocked at something you say. For some reason, I have a natural sense of postures and bodily motions, and if the slightest little vibration goes through you, I will not only tell, but am more likely to be highly focused on it even moreso than most other nonverbal gestures.
do you think so? i look directly at things quite a lot. i am always turning and moving to get a better look at things, a more direct look. although i do use my periphery a lot too.
me too. i really stare at people when i am talking to them, directly in the eye. several times i have had people call me out on it, and say it makes them uncomfortable!