1) What aspect of your personality made you unsure of your type?
I’ve recently begun to seem more introverted, despite the fact that I’ve always thought myself to be the “outgoing†and extroverted type. I’ve noticed that I don’t enjoy large crowds and prefer smaller groups of people (no more than 4 or 5 max) and though I am an expressive person, I don’t share details about my personal life to really anyone. When I asked a new coworker if she thought I was an extrovert or introvert after one month of working together, she said, “I don’t even know your favorite color.†Apart from that, I’ve also been uncertain of whether I am a Feeler or a Thinker. I have a hard time determining what I’m actually good at and what I’m just obsessed with, as my inferior function.
2) What do you yearn for in life? Why?
Two things: to have adventure, and to have a family. On the one hand, I want to explore different places and spend as much time as possible in nature, and I want to learn as many new things as my brain can possible handle. On the other hand, I want to have something (a child) that needs me, that I can give all of my love and nurture to and will give me purpose in life.
3) Think about a time where you felt like you were at your finest. Tell us what made you feel that way.
The times when I have forgiven the people I love for doing unforgivable things. Even though it makes me feel worthless and like I don’t matter to them, I can feel good about who I am through my ability to love them despite their having hurt me.
4) What makes you feel inferior?
When my husband attacks my intelligence or common sense. He thinks because he’s logical in a different way than I am, that I’m somehow lesser or am not capable of coming to a logical conclusion. I also feel inferior to women that are more feminine than I am. It feeds into my insecurity that I don’t try hard enough to be beautiful or girly, and that makes me less attractive.
5) What tends to weigh on your decisions? (Do you think about people, pro-cons, how you feel about it, etc.)
I think of all possible outcomes and usually get really anxious (I am terrible at making decisions). I usually think about how I feel/what I want alongside what the logical or impartial choice would be, and struggle between those two options for a while. In the end, I usually choose the most practical option, even if it’s not what I want.
6) When working on a project what is normally your emphasis? Do you like to have control of the outcome?
I don’t like to work with others on projects, unless they’re just giving their opinion, advice, or some new ideas. But when it comes to the implementation of any project, I need to be the one in control to make sure that everything is done right and goes as planned. Very rarely would I trust anyone to do any of the work that might affect the outcome.
7) Describe a time where you had a lot of fun. How is your memory of it?
Pretty much any time I’ve gone to Disney World. I love it because I’m able to completely disengage from the real world and it’s like I enter this fantasy world where I don’t have to worry about anything and I get to use my imagination and act like a kid without any judgment. My husband and I enjoy acting like everything there is real, so when we see a little kid dressed up as a princess we’ll be like, “Your Majesty!†and I just get to be free without any responsibilities or worries.
8) When you want to learn something new, what feels more natural for you?
I have to practice it on my own. I like someone to show me how to do it, and then let me try it. If you show me too many times I’m going to get frustrated and demand to be given a chance to try. I have to put things into practical use or it will be hard for me to grasp the concept, hence why I have a difficult time understanding theories unless I’m given an example of how it can be applied to reality.
9) How organized do you think of yourself as?
I’m a pretty organized person. I can be scatter-brained at work, but at least outwardly I like to know where everything is and I have a place for most everything. My closet is organized into sections for each type of clothing, and then subtypes of that type. This doesn’t always mean that I’m ‘neat’ but I do like order.
10) How do you judge new ideas? You try to understand the principles behind it to see if they make sense or do you look for information that supports it?
This is a really hard question for me to answer. What do you even mean by an idea? I’m having a hard time thinking of an example of a situation where I was faced with a ‘new idea’. I guess if we’re talking about an ‘idea’ like, life on Mars, then I would look for evidence to support that idea before agreeing with it. But if we’re talking about an ‘idea’ like a plotline for a possible novel, then…I guess I’d look for flaws that could be found in the idea to make sure that it’s a solid plan? Yeah, I do that a lot with ideas. Look for flaws to make sure it’s a sound idea before even considering it.
11) You find harmony by making sure everyone is doing fine and belonging to a given group or by making sure that you follow what you believe and being yourself?
Definitely making sure everyone is doing fine and feeling like they belong/are happy.
12) Are you the kind that thinks before speaking or do you speak before thinking? Do you prefer one-on-one communication or group discussions?
I used to be known as someone with no tact, so I definitely used to talk before thinking. But I think I’ve gotten a lot quieter the older I’ve gotten, so now in most group settings I am very thoughtful about what I’m going to say and if it’s purposeful for the discussion at hand before I say it at all. I guess in a normal conversation though, I still from time to time say something without thinking about it first, but much less often than I used to. I like group discussion if it’s a small group, but I get more out of one-on-one communication. It feeds my soul more.
13) Do you jump into action right away or do you like to know where are you jumping before leaping? Does action speaks more than words?
I have to know where I’m jumping before I leap. I need to know the exact steps I’m taking to get the leap, to begin with. I think actions paired with words are the best way to do things.
14) It's Saturday. You're at home, and your favorite show is about to start. Your friends call you for a night out. What will you do?
I offer to have them come over for a night in instead, but choose to stay home and watch my show if they want to go out instead of coming over.
15) How do you act when you're stressed out?
I lash out at those closest to me and have a very ‘short fuse.’ I get over-stimulated easily and usually want to be left alone/go home. I am frazzled and very pessimistic, as well. It’s harder for me to be productive.
16) What makes you dislike the personalities of some people?
I don’t like it when people are overly-optimistic and refuse to look at things from a realistic standpoint, or think being realistic is the same thing as being pessimistic, because they get everyone’s hopes up. I don’t like it when people are selfish or too stubborn to bend their thoughts/viewpoints/needs to help someone else out from time to time, because it means they don’t care enough to be flexible for anyone but themselves. I don’t understand people that won’t give new experiences a try…because what’s the point of living if you won’t try new things sometimes?
17) Is there anything you really like talking about with other people?
Haha, their personalities. I love learning about people’s likes and dislikes and the little intricacies that make them who they are, so that I can understand them better as a person. I guess I like knowing how people are “doing,†and being a friendly ear for anyone in need. I also enjoy talking about books/tv shows/movies with people a lot.
18) What kind of things do you pay the least attention to in your life?
I feel like I pay attention to everything, obsessively. And if I feel like I’m not paying attention to some aspect, I get really anxious until I get that aspect under control. But I guess…I get really caught up in day to day things and my plans for the future and what my husband and I are doing, so I’m really bad at keeping up with any long-distance friendships that I have because they’re not right in front of me, reminding me that they need attention, too.
19) How do your friends perceive you? What is wrong about their perception? ? What would your friends never say about your personality ?
A lot of people have told me that my presence just…makes people feel good, for some reason? I’m told by a lot of people that I’m “inspiring†and “different†from most people, like I apparently have this ability to make everyone feel like they’re special, without even knowing that I’m doing it. I’m also perceived as someone that is outgoing and silly, by the people that know me best. I guess what I think is wrong with my friends’ perceptions is their idea that I’m this great, caring person? Because I do care, but a lot of the time I turn off that caring feeling so that I can take care of me and my needs (or my family’s needs) first and foremost. So I just think I’m more selfish than they realize, I guess. As far as what they’d never say about me, I don’t think anyone would call me shy. I may not tell people details about myself, but I am perfectly comfortable going up to a complete stranger and introducing myself and finding out more about them if I need to.
20) You got a whole day to do whatever you like. What kind of activities do you feel like doing?
I want to go outside and lie in a sunny spot in the grass and read all of the books that I never get to read for hours. And then I want to write out my thoughts on pages and pages and just sit and reflect on where I’m actually at in my life and what my needs are right now, because I never have time to do that anymore.
For years now I've been bouncing from type to type, and it seems that the more I learn about cognitive functions the harder it is for me to determine what type I am. I need some objective perspectives! Help a girl out?
