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So is there anybody out there who may know this problem and may have an idea. Here's what I mean:
it basically happens to me with introverted people, who do long rhetorical pauses while speaking. So my boss is undoubtly an INTJ and he has that no shit straight face business look. He's the sole dictator of 400 people and there are just no times for jokes. So my charm doesnt work here.
In case my charm doesnt work, I have to appear competent, which is difficult when you are not . Especially as a trainee your competence level equals shit, so what to do what to do...
So when conversing with him, he usually does the talking but then he makes this long pauses and me thinks, ok he wants you to say something now. But thats not the case, the moment I start talking, I am interrupted by him who continues after a long pause, wtf...
Does he hate me ? Or does he want to provoke me and see if he'd survive a fistfight with me ? Whats the deal here, I dont understand that.. I mean obviously I am a very assertive person and I like to interrupt people myself a lot. But not to the extent that I wouldnt know the quality a good conversation can have at times when it comes to brainstorming or idea generating.
The boss was born as a boss. He became boss when his Dad opened up the position. Could it maybe be that because he was born boss, that he never learnt to discuss ? I mean in the sum of all things he is a totally nice guy, he is comforting, he is 100% reliably and kind, its just not possible to have a productive argumentative discussion with him ?!?!?!
One last idea is that he's maybe that kind of guy who needs a long time to build trust. While I can easily trust his competence already, because I can feel that he's good, he maybe still needs to get to know me, we know each other for only 2 days.. hehe
Whats your opinion ?
it basically happens to me with introverted people, who do long rhetorical pauses while speaking. So my boss is undoubtly an INTJ and he has that no shit straight face business look. He's the sole dictator of 400 people and there are just no times for jokes. So my charm doesnt work here.
In case my charm doesnt work, I have to appear competent, which is difficult when you are not . Especially as a trainee your competence level equals shit, so what to do what to do...
So when conversing with him, he usually does the talking but then he makes this long pauses and me thinks, ok he wants you to say something now. But thats not the case, the moment I start talking, I am interrupted by him who continues after a long pause, wtf...
Does he hate me ? Or does he want to provoke me and see if he'd survive a fistfight with me ? Whats the deal here, I dont understand that.. I mean obviously I am a very assertive person and I like to interrupt people myself a lot. But not to the extent that I wouldnt know the quality a good conversation can have at times when it comes to brainstorming or idea generating.
The boss was born as a boss. He became boss when his Dad opened up the position. Could it maybe be that because he was born boss, that he never learnt to discuss ? I mean in the sum of all things he is a totally nice guy, he is comforting, he is 100% reliably and kind, its just not possible to have a productive argumentative discussion with him ?!?!?!
One last idea is that he's maybe that kind of guy who needs a long time to build trust. While I can easily trust his competence already, because I can feel that he's good, he maybe still needs to get to know me, we know each other for only 2 days.. hehe
Whats your opinion ?