heh, how about another analogy?
Pe'ers aggregate puzzle pieces with little to no preconceived notion of what the puzzle will look like upon completion, so dammit, Pe'ers collect every durn piece they can find because they might neeeed it. If Pe'ers then get a whole whack of pieces that don't seem to fit, they then have to sort and separate and assemble whilst still looking for more and examining the patterns and trends in the pieces they've got. By the end, I suppose there might be two or three puzzles created but what to do with them now ... and the house continues to fill up with puzzle pieces like an episode of Hoarders!
Pi'ers think they saw the photo on the puzzle box already, so they unconsciously seek out the pieces that fit that image of the picture in their heads, and gosh, finding pieces along the way that don't fit what they're already searching for are dismissed without contemplation, like they're not even registered as existing. Until at some point, maybe Pi'ers realize that they've seen too many opposing pieces and start seeing that piece as potentially having import into the whole picture. So how to integrate ... how to accommodate ... how to recreate. grrr, that's frustrating and exhausting!
Or something.
I think it's a good idea to turn back to the OP for a sec ... EW is noting that INFJ's seem to have a tendency to reject more puzzle pieces than any other Pi'er based on some sort of (shall we say for lack of a better word) protocol involved in the delivery of the pieces. And what I am hearing is that, basically, INFJ's concur and are further providing some context so that other types can understand why they legitimately must do this. Is that correct?
So, if I'm interpreting that correctly, an extrapolated question could be: if there is something really, really important one desires an INFJ to look at, is there a way to help respectfully foster this process? When this "first filter" can be so effective at times, are there instances where an INFJ will wish to even have such a thing pointed out? And the gentlest way to do it would be? Or will those efforts be met with resistance or disbelief anyway so no sense trying to press on that?
Thanks INFJ's for your consideration - I imagine this is the path the conversation is going, so trying to facilitate that end.