lostlanguage
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Most of these messages are actually beneficial for functioning well in society. I say that instead of simply disregarding them, take the advice and adapt to your surroundings; you don't have to sell your soul doing that, people admire sincerity and empathy a lot more that you seem to want to admit.
Just be yourself.What else can you do?
witty
I didn't mean to make people mad with this question or anything. I just wanted to hear what people honestly think when it comes to these issues.
It seems like even the attempt to rationalize some of this stuff is revealing. I also have these kinds of battles in my head. "There must be a reason society is the way it is; surely it isn't just to make people suffer for reason." But even when I'm reading answers by people, some of it feels like rationalization, all of it adheres to the logical fallacy that if it's what people believe, it must be true, or it must be to the best. I feel that really robs people of the opportunity to look beyond what can be bought, sold, evaluated, or transacted in some kind of ego boost economy.
Are you just pissed off at someone who is successful? None of this thread makes any sense to me!... It seems to me like, us INFPs are usually going against the grain, society-wise.
Every day, whether it's at school, at work, in the family, or just on the street, there are all these messages being hurled at us (well, not just us, everyone).
-You have to look good
-It is important to be loud and attract admiration
-Social conventions are the basis of society
-It is more important to be assertive and in control than nice
-Being rich is better than being poor, spiritually and for the betterment of oneself
-It is stupid to consider other people
-Imagining things is dumb unless it makes you money
-It's better to be well-loved than sincere
.... and all this other stuff!!!!
And other than the first one (let's face it INFPs, we look damn good) almost all of that just feels like chewing nails, all day, every day. I know I'm not the only one on here who would rather unplug from society sometimes and live free.
So what do we need to tell ourselves? That is my question!
Like some kind of antidote, to all the messages above.
I would love if others started adding to this list (as I will) because sometimes I just need to remember that there are other values that matter than what "society" values (which most people wouldn't value at all, if they weren't so damn scared!)
That is all