stormyapril
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Since that other thread was so very, very long and covered so many topics, i thought I'd start another thread to inquire regarding how differences in the perceiving functions influence the ENFP/INTJ combination (including INFP/ENTJs since they also share the same perceiving function difference.)
We can of course talk about other things as well.
These were my first thoughts....
The INTJ-ENFP match works out well mostly!! (I love my INTJ so much) Perhaps the ISTJ:ENFP match might be even easier but would lack the abstract intuitive conversations.
The Te/Fi bridge simplifies communication and value judgment. There may not always be agreement, but the shared language and frame prevents confusion during discussion of the disagreement.
The biggest challenge is the Ni:Si difference. The ENFP's Si locks the INTJ into one, isolated, overly detailed Ni context, trapping them, leaving them feeling as though the Ne dom thinks they are always right. The INTJ keeps trying to displace core Si generalized rules with changing Ni contexts, thus giving the impression of ignoring previously agreed upon definitions or well understood Ne patterns. This leaves the Ne dom with no set Si foundation from which to Ne expand upon and perceiving the Ni dom as being dismissive.
On the positive side, the Ni Dom can pass new universal Ni truths which can replace old Si generalized truths, yielding whole new Ne playgrounds to explore. The Ne dom can pass the Ni dom Ne-isms which morph into new Ni contexts to view the problem through.
Word has it that the honesty, integrity, innocence, the direct, straightforward, open communication, the touching and holding, the commitment, the simultaneous ownership of responsibility and individual emotions, all make up for the perceptional differences.
Thoughts?
We can of course talk about other things as well.
These were my first thoughts....
The INTJ-ENFP match works out well mostly!! (I love my INTJ so much) Perhaps the ISTJ:ENFP match might be even easier but would lack the abstract intuitive conversations.
The Te/Fi bridge simplifies communication and value judgment. There may not always be agreement, but the shared language and frame prevents confusion during discussion of the disagreement.
The biggest challenge is the Ni:Si difference. The ENFP's Si locks the INTJ into one, isolated, overly detailed Ni context, trapping them, leaving them feeling as though the Ne dom thinks they are always right. The INTJ keeps trying to displace core Si generalized rules with changing Ni contexts, thus giving the impression of ignoring previously agreed upon definitions or well understood Ne patterns. This leaves the Ne dom with no set Si foundation from which to Ne expand upon and perceiving the Ni dom as being dismissive.
On the positive side, the Ni Dom can pass new universal Ni truths which can replace old Si generalized truths, yielding whole new Ne playgrounds to explore. The Ne dom can pass the Ni dom Ne-isms which morph into new Ni contexts to view the problem through.
Word has it that the honesty, integrity, innocence, the direct, straightforward, open communication, the touching and holding, the commitment, the simultaneous ownership of responsibility and individual emotions, all make up for the perceptional differences.
Thoughts?