You must live in a really totalitarian area to come to that conclusion!!!
You think the USA is a T-BASED???????? culture???
Whoaaaaaa. Why?
You go into the damn store, and everyone asks how the fuck you are. If you found everything you were looking for. Blah blah freaking blah. Packs your bags. Meets and greets at the store when you come in. When you go out. When you take a cigarette break while your SO is looking at every single fucking aisle for something you may need 10 years from now.
You meet someone you know on the street. First question: How are you? No one gives a rat's fat behind how you are, but it's one of these social niceties.
Small talk. But only certain kinds. No politics. No religion/philosophy. Nothing people might not be familiar with. No sex. In other words, inane bullshit no one cares about.
Parties and shit. Sororities and fraternities. Everyone does volunteer work. Donates to charities, and everyone goes AWWWW, what a nice person. He might beat up his wife when he gets home, but yay he goes to church. What a nice guy.
Positive feedback. Always tell people when they did something right.
And if they do something wrong, always say it nicely.
We do it for the country man. America first. America rocks! America's the best!!! YAYYYYYYYYYY! We're all patriots. Unified!!!!!
Even linguistically. Man. The language illustrates it, too:
- Softening negative stuff. I'm afraid.... Unfortunately.... Well, I see your point, but... You may be on the right track, but.... I'm not quite sure about that.... Well, normally I would love to help, but.... Well, I'm not sure if I have time.
- Asking for things with softening language Would you mind.... Could you please...? Flowery language.
- Question tags 'isn't it?, don't you?, right?'
- If clauses: If you're not doing anything on Saturday, maybe you'd like to hang out?
Dude, English is a pansy language. Seriously.
What happened to:
You're fucking WRONG man. Wronger than wrong. Stinky methane gas wrong.
Do it, damn youuuuuu!!!!! I'm not going to say it again! Get off your fat dumb ass and DOOOOOO ITTTTTTTTTTT!!!!!!!
You are late. Where the fuck were you?
Nope. It ain't there. And you suck.
This is what I think!
Wanna go out with me? Let's grab a coffee and chat
I suck. You suck. We all suck.
No. NO. N-O spells No. Not yes. Not maybe. Not could be if I won a million dollars. NO!!!!!!!!!!!!
I feel shitty, actually. Really shitty. If I feel any shittier, I'll probably barf on your head.
Or kick my in-laws in the butt.
Yeah, that's right. The order's late. You're not the only asshole who wants something.
Do it, please.
I want ________. No, not that. THIS.
No, you're on the wrong ball field. You're swinging a bat on a diamond field playing singing in the rain while we're waging war on the offensive and tackling each other with a damned football.
The weather sucks. Get over it. You bitch when it's hot, cold, sunny, rainy, windy, dry, wet, humid, snowy, icy, and everything else.
And, yes, I'm exaggerating. And ranting. And whatever.
How come if an ENFP can read people and has empathy, they never actually see that they are fine in other people's eyes and always have to ask?
Because I suck at telling. And if I don't ask, I start analyzing too much and causing myself too much aggravation. So asking is easier, quicker, and usually less painful.