frylockholmes
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I test close to 50/50 in my I/E also, but after reading up on the characteristics of each, and after my INFJ(they think they know everything MBTI) sister in law TELLING me I'm an ENFJ, I feel I really am more of an ENFJ... and after reading even more, I'm almost a stereotypical ENFJ.
Here are some of the issues I deal with off and on and some of them constantly:
- I am always thinking about a year or two into the future and make myself miserable now, working to achieve those goals.
- When I do get tired of working my fingers and mind to the bone, I have 4 or 5 days of an "IDGAF" attitude... but then I get depressed that I'm not trying as hard at EVERYTHING ALL AT ONCE, that I go back to my usual. It's hard to find a happy middle ground.
- My Fe is so strong that it almost harms me. When I hear about someone getting hurt intentionally by another person it affects me deeply. It's been that way since I was a kid. My mom would watch a lifetime movies when I was like 6 or 7 and a woman would get raped and I would just fly off the handle. I'd cry and cry for hours at the thought that humanity could be that sick. I later learned coping mechanisms(like when I hear something on the news, immediately stop what I'm doing, pray and then imagine myself giving the victim a giant hug and tell them that I'm so sorry that this happened to them. Sometimes, I still fly off the handle, though. And if I personally hurt someone's feelings, I feel horrible about it until I can make peace with them. And then I still feel horrible for a while after that.
- I take too much responsibility for things - and it goes both ways. If something goes bad, I tend to blame myself. But also, if something goes right, I like to take credit for it. Unless there is someone who I know that would be really happy if they got credit for it(there goes my Fe again), I will make sure they get credit.
- I'm always helping. In fact, I love it sooooo much that when I'm working(as a nurse) I like to be the float nurse so I can walk up to anyone and everyone and say, "Okay, I'm here. What do you need? What can I do for you? I'm here to help everyone." I LOVE it!
- I think I may have already touched on my Ni by talking about my need to look into the future, but even when it comes to the immediate future, I'm always making predictions on how events are going to unfold... and I'm right a lot of the time. In my line of work, we tend to be very superstitious... never saying anything out loud like, "Oh, she'll have a normal delivery." or "I sure hope we don't have any STATS tonight." I always feel like the universe is messing with us(We are in the business of birth... I think the universe likes it.).
- When it comes to making friends and having relationships, I like to have relationships with people that I can talk to about ANYTHING. My best friend of 11 years(an ISFJ), my husband(an ENFP), and my dad(an ISTP) are those people. The relationship I have with others who I'm kind of close to, but not enough to share EVERYTHING is my mom(an ENFP), my sister in law(an INFJ), and my mother in law(an INTJ). Anyone else, I'm afraid that I might offend them with some of the things I say, so that they may think I'm weird, or that I'm WAY TO INTENSE for them. I tend to keep quiet until I can be assured that I won't make a bad first impression. Then I ease into conversations, and if they are showing the same intensity and similar beliefs that I have, THEN I will open up. But it's so difficult because I CRAVE emotional connectivity in social interactions. I want to know people deep down, inside and out. And if they are willing to open up to me, I want them to know me just as well.
- One more thing, I'm highly manipulative and persuasive. I don't even realize it sometimes. My husband pointed it out when we were reading about our types. Now I see that it is sooooooo evident. One of my most evident manipulations went like this:
Me: Hey Ben, are you hungry?
Ben: Yeah, I am!
Me: Oh! I could cook some roasted asparagus, BBQ chicken, and some of that rice that you like!
Ben: OMG that sounds amazing!
Me: Well, I could start now, but the sink is full of dishes. I'd have to do the dishes first. *sigh and a sad face*
Ben: Oh don't worry about it! I'll do the dishes!
Me: Okay, I'll go defrost the chicken! *rubs hand together while laughing devilishly under breath*
I guess that's all for now. So what to you guys think... am I a textbook ENFJ?
Here are some of the issues I deal with off and on and some of them constantly:
- I am always thinking about a year or two into the future and make myself miserable now, working to achieve those goals.
- When I do get tired of working my fingers and mind to the bone, I have 4 or 5 days of an "IDGAF" attitude... but then I get depressed that I'm not trying as hard at EVERYTHING ALL AT ONCE, that I go back to my usual. It's hard to find a happy middle ground.
- My Fe is so strong that it almost harms me. When I hear about someone getting hurt intentionally by another person it affects me deeply. It's been that way since I was a kid. My mom would watch a lifetime movies when I was like 6 or 7 and a woman would get raped and I would just fly off the handle. I'd cry and cry for hours at the thought that humanity could be that sick. I later learned coping mechanisms(like when I hear something on the news, immediately stop what I'm doing, pray and then imagine myself giving the victim a giant hug and tell them that I'm so sorry that this happened to them. Sometimes, I still fly off the handle, though. And if I personally hurt someone's feelings, I feel horrible about it until I can make peace with them. And then I still feel horrible for a while after that.
- I take too much responsibility for things - and it goes both ways. If something goes bad, I tend to blame myself. But also, if something goes right, I like to take credit for it. Unless there is someone who I know that would be really happy if they got credit for it(there goes my Fe again), I will make sure they get credit.
- I'm always helping. In fact, I love it sooooo much that when I'm working(as a nurse) I like to be the float nurse so I can walk up to anyone and everyone and say, "Okay, I'm here. What do you need? What can I do for you? I'm here to help everyone." I LOVE it!
- I think I may have already touched on my Ni by talking about my need to look into the future, but even when it comes to the immediate future, I'm always making predictions on how events are going to unfold... and I'm right a lot of the time. In my line of work, we tend to be very superstitious... never saying anything out loud like, "Oh, she'll have a normal delivery." or "I sure hope we don't have any STATS tonight." I always feel like the universe is messing with us(We are in the business of birth... I think the universe likes it.).
- When it comes to making friends and having relationships, I like to have relationships with people that I can talk to about ANYTHING. My best friend of 11 years(an ISFJ), my husband(an ENFP), and my dad(an ISTP) are those people. The relationship I have with others who I'm kind of close to, but not enough to share EVERYTHING is my mom(an ENFP), my sister in law(an INFJ), and my mother in law(an INTJ). Anyone else, I'm afraid that I might offend them with some of the things I say, so that they may think I'm weird, or that I'm WAY TO INTENSE for them. I tend to keep quiet until I can be assured that I won't make a bad first impression. Then I ease into conversations, and if they are showing the same intensity and similar beliefs that I have, THEN I will open up. But it's so difficult because I CRAVE emotional connectivity in social interactions. I want to know people deep down, inside and out. And if they are willing to open up to me, I want them to know me just as well.
- One more thing, I'm highly manipulative and persuasive. I don't even realize it sometimes. My husband pointed it out when we were reading about our types. Now I see that it is sooooooo evident. One of my most evident manipulations went like this:
Me: Hey Ben, are you hungry?
Ben: Yeah, I am!
Me: Oh! I could cook some roasted asparagus, BBQ chicken, and some of that rice that you like!
Ben: OMG that sounds amazing!
Me: Well, I could start now, but the sink is full of dishes. I'd have to do the dishes first. *sigh and a sad face*
Ben: Oh don't worry about it! I'll do the dishes!
Me: Okay, I'll go defrost the chicken! *rubs hand together while laughing devilishly under breath*
I guess that's all for now. So what to you guys think... am I a textbook ENFJ?