tsumatachi_san
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My INF/TJ mum She's just so capable.
PSH, that would be God. For me, anyway.I dont think this topic is about fictional characters from books
Aw I can feel loved today. Perhaps one day I can become like one of these people in the thread, I aspire to be someone who doesn't voice their opinion right off... Who looks at people and instead of subconsciously judging their work to your values, they see the beauty and incredible potential of each person.Probably my ENFJ sister, who has so much energy for actually doing stuff (as opposed to vaguely intending to) and the way she's constantly looking out for the people she cares about. And she's fun too.
In fact, from the two of them I know, ENFJs are just about my favourite type. The other is one of my best friends, and he's always the one initiating and organising things in our group (just as my sister is in my family).
To all you ENFJs out there, your efforts are truly appreciated.
I need no one to look up to and never have. If there's anyone I would or admire it would be myself. Call me narcissistic or egotistic I dont care, I make my own path.
Right. But there's never been anyone who particularly helped and encouraged you to become the person you are?
My flute teacher. He's an NF, not sure which one exactly, ENFP maybe?
I consider him the best friend I have right now. I'm just reaching the end of high school, and I've always felt very isolated and lost- there are few Ns surrounding me, and even fewer NFs. I feel so lucky that he became my teacher last year- he seems to understand me better than anyone else I know. I can talk to him about all my problems in life and he'll tell me about the similar things he went through when he was my age, and since he has 17 more years life experience, he can give me fantastic advice.
I trust his opinion above anyone else's. Because I always lacked a decent father figure in my life, I crave another older male to take his place, to be the friendly, wise big brother, if you like. This is my flute teacher.
I like that he has very defined, individual opinions about everything, including music, politics, and complex moral issues. He won't ever choose to take the opinion that seems expected of him, but always looks at it critically before making a decision. His independent mind and courage in his opinions inspire me to aspire to this also.
He is brutally honest. He tells me if he thinks somebody is very ugly, but then goes on to explain that it doesn't matter, it doesn't change his opinion of the person.
This honesty is extended to positive things as well. For example, he has the confidence to say when something (a piece of music? a person dressed up for a special occasion? etc) is beautiful, and frequently does say so. For me, beautiful is such a big word, one I don't trust myself to have the right, or the understanding, to speak myself, to apply to something on my own accord. But I hope to be like him one day, to say 'That's beautiful' without self consiousness or shame!
Music is his thing. He works hard at it, practising his main instrument, piano, composing. He's excels at it.
He shares my weird sense of humour, acts really over the top, random and strange, which gives me permission to do so in his presence as well. He is someone I can talk about with about our favourite moments from The Simpsons and Futurama- it takes up a certain amount of our lesson time every week!
That will do for now.
^^ Reading that post, I actually thought you were a close friends of mine who I see almost every day. She's an INFP and we're in Western Australia, and she absolutely loves her flute teacher for the reasons you listed. She's always lacked a mother figure, and her flute teacher is female.
It is truly startling.
I truly and deeply admire people who are geniunely generous/kind. It's a rare trait as most people just give to recieve, which isn't bad in itself but I can't respect people who do it and think they're being selfless