More of the latter. I come across as a bit of a wallflower when people first meet me. This is because I am taking in all the information about that person that I can. It is a very intuitive process and as such does not take as long as it would were I to be simply analizing specific details about what they are saying. A single sentence or posture can tell me volumes that they are not expressing. And Im not even sure how I do this. I do occasionally try to gently stretch their understanding of me once they've gotten a bit more used to me. Sometimes they are willing to let me stretch them in this regard, and sometimes they are not. Whether or not they are is what indicates to me that they are willing to understand more about me and I will use what understanding I have already gleaned about them to share the new aspect of myself in a way that I know they will comprehend.