INFP - Getting Over Someone

[Infpgal]

To all types out there, what are some helpful tips for an INFP specifically to get over someone they are in love with? Practical explanations with a good understanding of our functions is helpful.

 

[Sacrophagus]

I'll be a bit quick since I'm out of time:

_Stop idealizing your past subject of love.
_Stop thinking you're incomplete without them.
_Stop thinking about getting them back.
_Don't think about trying to prove them wrong or make them regret anything.
_Love yourself first and foremost.
_Get a support system, and if you don't have one, you're already more than enough.
_Rediscover who you were before the relationship.
_Immerse yourself in the things you are passionate about.
_Turn off that goddamn miserable music.
_It's okay to be single.
_Being single is awesome.
_If you find yourself reminiscing while looking at a couple, pinch yourself.
_The world is goddamn wide. You'll get over the fear of moving on soon, you'll start enjoying life again, feel free, and you'll eventually find someone else.

 

[Infpgal]

_Stop idealizing your past subject of love._Stop thinking you're incomplete without them. _Stop thinking about getting them back. _Don't think about trying to prove them wrong or make them regret anything. _Love yourself first and foremost. _Get a support system, and if you don't have one, you're already more than enough. _Rediscover who you were before the relationship. _Immerse yourself in the things you are passionate about. _Turn off that goddamn miserable music. _It's okay to be single. _Being single is awesome. _If you find yourself reminiscing while looking at a couple, pinch yourself. _The world is goddamn wide. You'll get over the fear of moving on soon, you'll start enjoying life again, feel free, and you'll eventually find someone else.

This is all very good advice, thank you. It's a little hard to look at things objectively when you're in the middle of it. What type are you?

 

[Agent Washington]

Work on improving yourself, as you become a better and more powerful person, you will have a completely different perspective.

 

[Tater]

Focus on the other person's flaws.

Remember that you are #1.

Think towards the future.

 

[entropie]

time

it's type independent

 

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[xenaprincess]

I would say to yourself that there will be a day when you don't think about him and that you deserve better. You deserve a mutual relationship
Don't contact him, ever. Erase his phone number and email.
Ask friends to stop you from contacting him if you have those moments of weakness
Seek a therapist if you feel really bad, so that it's not just friends and family that support you
Try some meditation and quiet time for yourself, not thinking about him or the past
Try getting out of the house and walking around in nature.
Give yourself a deadline for wallowing. You can wallow for X amount to the fullest, but after that, you gotta stop.
Trust in the universe that you'll learn from this and be better for it.

 

[notmyapples]

• Stop focusing on all the good memories and start viewing the situation objectively. That objectivity may only be present to you in time and if so, take it.
• Realize the things you loved about them, realize the things that went wrong and that you will always find something worth loving in someone else.
• Know that you can still experience all the things you wished for in life without them by your side.
• Do not attempt contact. You are still emotional, it's going to take a bit for the rose-colored glasses to slip off and give you to ability to view the situation outside of your grief.
• Grieve in your own way. If you want to embrace being single quickly and go out partying to forget about that person, do that. If you want to take time alone to reevaluate and let your emotions sink in, do that. Don't be pressured by the people around you to grieve in a way you are not comfortable because you will never let it go if you don't do what is right for you.

 

[Infpgal]

• Stop focusing on all the good memories and start viewing the situation objectively. That objectivity may only be present to you in time and if so, take it.
• Realize the things you loved about them, realize the things that went wrong and that you will always find something worth loving in someone else.
• Know that you can still experience all the things you wished for in life without them by your side.
• Do not attempt contact. You are still emotional, it's going to take a bit for the rose-colored glasses to slip off and give you to ability to view the situation outside of your grief.
• Grieve in your own way. If you want to embrace being single quickly and go out partying to forget about that person, do that. If you want to take time alone to reevaluate and let your emotions sink in, do that. Don't be pressured by the people around you to grieve in a way you are not comfortable because you will never let it go if you don't do what is right for you.

I can do all of this except no contact. Thank you for your thoughts, this is helpful.