That said, like I mentioned in the PM I sent you, I can see why your identification with your type could make this feel like such a personal attack, and I did apologize for that. It nonetheless doesn't change the experiences that I've had with INFJs, nor what I believe about unhealthy people of that type as a result of it.
First, yes, we can be phenomenal pains in the asses in much the way WUR described. There's quite a bit of questionable 'feedback' about INFJs in this forum, but I do think the initial post that started this spate of bickering is actually more based on reality than the usual reason. But I don't think this (bolded) is necessarily the reason Forever is getting wound up. And- even supposing the bolded were true- it's never really productive to post assumptions about why someone else is doing something.
eta: Point being, you
are baiting, however inadvertently. /eta
Unhealthy INFJ's can be just as shitty as any other unhealthy type.
/hateover
I've been saying this, ever since I joined really- it actually is mindbogglingly infuriating to deal with batshit INFJs. I think, actually, that
all NFs and ENTPs have their own distinct potential for being exceptionally, stunningly manipulative in their own way. The ego has amazing ways of protecting itself, and I think being an N can make those narratives even more creative. And NTJs- they do get equally as "shitty", but they don't really get manipulative (largely because they can't be bothered to pay enough attention to how people work to figure out how to manipulate), they just get directly mean.
But the point is- they're not wrong. I've had INFJs- that I actually considered friends- pull absolutely bizarre *magic messages* from between the lines of things I said like no other 'type'. It was more about their past- they were either projecting or combining
their past (childhood, likely) experience with
my words, and the product was so completely disorienting that I'm still stunned. For more reasons than I'm willing to type out here, but probably mostly because
their conviction- that they heard what they think they heard, without beginning to realize how much their own imagination added- was so solid and impermeable that it was pointless to even try to point it out to them. <- That only has happened with other INFJs.
Don't get me wrong- I
personally actually find NFP and ENTP manipulation of shared reality (to protect the ego) to be the most baiting and offensive. But what Rex is saying- there's a lot of truth to it.