cacaia
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- May 27, 2018
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- so/sp
Hi! So, I am curious about whether one can type a child by observing their reaction to the realization that everyone will eventually die.
Let me explain:
My daughter never really thought about her own death as a child. She cried a little when her fish died, and that was that. She moved on quite fast, never truly forgetting her first pet, but also accepting death as a thing that happens.
My son, however, was so distraught by the death of that fish that he began questioning about death since then (he was 3 at the time). He is actually the youngest child I know who put 2 and 2 together rather quickly. His first question was, "the fish is dead? forever?" followed by "I'm going to die, too?" He spent the rest of the week really distraught about the fact that he was eventually going to die. We talked extensively about what people believed would happen after death (and what people didn't believe in) and talked about the cycle of life, how we never really stop being something- atoms, part of another animal, molecules, etc.
He was eventually Ok and moved on, but every now and then the subject creeps up again and he talks about how older people die first, and younger later, etc....and every time, my daughter looks over at him and says, "geez, why do you think these things? Death never really bothered me."
I am guessing my son exhibits more of an N approach to life, whereas my daughter prefers S. I know it's early to type them, soo I'm reaching out as a parent and asking- are there any parents out there that have similar experiences? And, in general, what do you think?
Thanks in advance!
Let me explain:
My daughter never really thought about her own death as a child. She cried a little when her fish died, and that was that. She moved on quite fast, never truly forgetting her first pet, but also accepting death as a thing that happens.
My son, however, was so distraught by the death of that fish that he began questioning about death since then (he was 3 at the time). He is actually the youngest child I know who put 2 and 2 together rather quickly. His first question was, "the fish is dead? forever?" followed by "I'm going to die, too?" He spent the rest of the week really distraught about the fact that he was eventually going to die. We talked extensively about what people believed would happen after death (and what people didn't believe in) and talked about the cycle of life, how we never really stop being something- atoms, part of another animal, molecules, etc.
He was eventually Ok and moved on, but every now and then the subject creeps up again and he talks about how older people die first, and younger later, etc....and every time, my daughter looks over at him and says, "geez, why do you think these things? Death never really bothered me."
I am guessing my son exhibits more of an N approach to life, whereas my daughter prefers S. I know it's early to type them, soo I'm reaching out as a parent and asking- are there any parents out there that have similar experiences? And, in general, what do you think?
Thanks in advance!