Whine whine whine. Victim victim victim-only of your own choices. Man, I wish I were so entitled to be allowed to make my own choices, and then blame others for them. Now that is fuckin privlege!
It’s true; I don’t know what leads people to addiction. Maybe it isn’t always a choice but getting help is.
And no, I don’t want to fucking hear it. I know some people here assume I have no experience with this. No, I just don’t talk about it much.
My Father’s life has been riddled with -and destroyed by- his own poor choices and refusal to get clean. He’s stolen from the family countless times, blown his 3.5k which he gets per month on drugs alcohol while living on the streets ( while my actually disabled law-abiding-ass get’s less than a 1/4th that and will never have enough to live on my own) sold the family home for drug money, threatened my Grandparents who have bailed him out countless times.
And now, sadly, no one will give him their number. ( He used to have them. I’d like to say I do not know how he lost them, but I’m pretty sure I do.)
No matter what they have done, I think it’s hard to imagine a family member cold, alone, and hungry with no one to turn to but at the same time we know we can’t help him. We know that letting him into our lives will drag us both down, and may in fact be dangerous because of the people he knows.
It kills me to think he may eventually want my number not to ask for money but to try and make amends, it does, but it would be a poor choice for me to contact him, just as it was his repeated poor choices what got him where he is.
The story is the same fir 90% of the people on my Mother’s side of the family; the addicts dead or missing while those who tried to help ( (ie my Mother) are left broke and too jaded to ever want to help another human being.
Yes, I’ve heard it all before “ Put yourself in their shoesâ€.
No, put yourself in mine; someone born with an actual disease, allowed none of this ‘ bodily autonomy’ you all take for granted, nor marriage, nor a home, or bank account. Someone who wants nothing more than to work and contribute to society yet who was the one laid off in ‘08, from her job through a company which supposedly contracted with the disabled-everyone but her was an alcoholic/drug addict. The boss flubbed their background checks for them, several of whom were drunk on the job or would go missing for weeks on a drug/alcohol binge and allowed to return with zero reprocusion.
Someone who, every time they have tried to ask for the slightest bit of help has been told “ No†because she answered “No†to the question “are you a drug addict or criminal� and has to wander through the world not only jobless and homeless, but also hated and judged as a ‘leech’ and ‘ lazy’ while everyone shouts in her ears to feel bad for those who had help thrown at their feet time and time again, being lectured about 2nd chances while she wonders when she will have her first.
No, I don’t give a shit about those people who would squander so much privilege and help as if the world owed to them.
However to those who have/are putting in the work -and it is difficult-more power to them.